[Someguy1985]

I went out with this girl but after the date she said, she didn’t want to continue going out, she was too busy and would never have time to see me. (Because a cuple days before was the last day of drivers Ed, the way we met, and the only place I saw her)I do admit I could have been better on the date like more confident and more outgoing I feel like I could do that now. My question is how do I get her to go out with me again? how long do I wait to text her? what do I say?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Not everyone is going to want to date you — and not everyone who wants to date you is someone you’ll want to date. That’s just life. So, if you’re not her cup of tea, there’s not a lot you can do to get a second chance. However, if you really think that the reason you didn’t get a second date was because you weren’t outgoing or confident enough, then make sure that when you do ask her out again, you show her that you actually are outgoing and confident. 😉 Since she’s already told you she doesn’t want to go out again, you’ll have to work a little harder to try and win her over. And since you no longer have a class in common, you’ll have to find out where she lives, works, hangs out, and try to bump into her, if possible. It’ll be easier to win her over in person than by text. You could also send her a little gift, like flowers — or a key chain for her car keys when she passes her driver’s test. And then ask her out….

Hope that helps!

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[Someguy1985]

Thanks for the help. I don’t have any way to bump in to her:( but she does seem like a girl who would appreciate a well rote message. One more thing at the end of the date when she said she was to busy I said “maybe another time” and she responded “yeah maybe” is it possible she might actually want to go out again?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You won’t know unless you ask her! 😉

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[Someguy1985]

What do i say to her?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask her to have dinner with you. 😉

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[Someguy1985]

Since texting is the only way for me to get ahold of her I should just text “do you want to go to dinner?” That’s it?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You asked me how you could possibly get a second chance after the first date ended with her telling you she didn’t want to go out any more. My advice was to find a way to bump into her, so you can try to make a better impression than you did before, and that you’re going to have to work a little harder since you’re looking for a second chance. It sounds like you don’t want to do the hard work. 😕 Just understand that if you [u]text[/u] a woman for a second date, after the first one didn’t go well, you’re not giving yourself a great chance of success. 😕 It really sounds like you’re looking for shortcuts, and not understanding that you have to win her over.

For instance, you say that you can only text her now that the class you had together ended — but I don’t buy it. You can call her on the phone. You can send her flowers. And, if you can take her out for a date, which is what you want to do, surely, you can find a way to bump into her to try and win her over and do some damage control and after a not-great first date. 😉 If you really want that second chance, then you have to [i]work[/i] for it!

I hope that helps.

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[Someguy1985]

If I could do anything more I would I just have no way to bump in to her

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Oh, come on! Can’t you find out where she lives and works, and try to bump into her there? If not, why?

And can’t you send flowers to her office or home?

Like I said, if you want a second chance — you have to work for it! 😉

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[Someguy1985]

Sadly I really don’t, I don’t know anyone she knows, she doesn’t have anything on her Facebook, all I have is her phone number. I really am willing to work for this but I don’t see a way to do anything you’ve said..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Then you should call her on the phone. 😉 Women love to hear the sound of men’s voices, and it’s a much better option than texting.

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[Someguy1985]

Thanks for the help. How long should I wait to text her?

[Someguy1985]

Oops, call her*

[April Masini, your AskApril]

A week after the first date is fine. Make sure you bring your A game to the phone call! 🙂

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