If you want to get someone back, you have to look at the reasons for the break up to see where things went wrong. You wrote that the break up was caused by his substance abuse, bad roommate choices and doing something that resulted in the loss of his car. These issues indicate he’s not ready for a mature relationship. It seems that unless those things change, there isn’t going to be a lot you can do to make this work.
Just because you (or any of us) want something doesn’t mean you get it, so look at the problem objectively, instead of subjectively. 😉 If he was once someone without a substance problem, a social problem and a car problem, that’s the person you fell for, but he’s become someone else, and you’re still pining for the person he used to be. In addition to which, it’s not easy to be single and find Mr. Right — especially after you’ve been in a five year relationship. Being single and dating is uncomfortable for you, but unless you focus on what’s right for you, in a man, and finding that person, you’ll continue to feel uncomfortable and look for short cuts, like getting back an ex, who’s not the person he was when you fell for him in the first place.
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