[Anonymous]

Ok im a male , i met this woman in nov of 2009. We met via a dating site which was nothing more then basically a fool around type of site.
We met up in Dec of 2009 and had instant chemistry and lead to sexual contact. Basically i thought it was going to be nothing more then us fooling around from time to time. She started to feel more for me and started saying she’s in love with me.
Some backround on her. She has a 9yrold son – her family life is not so great being she doesn’t speak to her father and mother on a regular basis. She’s dated guys who have been abusive and some who have used drugs.
She herself is a drinker and esp when she is alone when her son is off with the father who is married now.

I broke off things with her in January because i didn’t want anything serious. I really wanted time to think about everything esp going into a relationship with a single parent it is a big step.
I decided a month later that i did want to be with her and we tried to get back together and i wanted to be in her life and her sons.
Problem is while we were apart she was seeing other guys and now comes out and says she’s pregnant with one of 2 guys she was with. One of which tells her he loves her and wants to be with her. Plus the guy is a ex con and drug user.
At this point i dont know what to think or do. She tells me she’s no good and i should not be with her but that she loves me and wants to be with me. There’s alot of trust issues because i know how she gets when she drinks. Very flirty and reckless. She’s lied to me about things and it takes a ton to have her open up and tell me things. She recently told me she lost her job and can’t even pay her rent. She doesn’t have a car and we live about 35mins from one another.
I’ve been so patient and want the best for her in every way but for some reason i just don’t think she’ll ever change.
I just need some advice.

[Ask April Masini]

Here’s the advice I have for you: Put on your running shoes — and RUN!

This woman is so wrong for you in so many ways, I don’t have time or space to name them all. 😯 She is really troubled. Deeply troubled. She’s pregnant right now with some other guy’s baby. You need to step back — waaaaaaay back, and stop all contact with her. You can’t help her. Her problems are too enormous for you, and now she’s pregnant by an ex-convict, drug addict — you may put yourself in danger with [b]him[/b] 😳 if you continue to be involved with her.

So, like I said, RUN!

[Anonymous]

[quote=”April Masini”]Here’s the advice I have for you: Put on your running shoes — and RUN!

This woman is so wrong for you in so many ways, I don’t have time or space to name them all. 😯 She is really troubled. Deeply troubled. She’s pregnant right now with some other guy’s baby. You need to step back — waaaaaaay back, and stop all contact with her. You can’t help her. Her problems are too enormous for you, and now she’s pregnant by an ex-convict, drug addict — you may put yourself in danger with [b]him[/b] 😳 if you continue to be involved with her.

So, like I said, RUN![/quote]

Thank You. Yes i tried my best to have her change and make her happy but in the end it’s just a waste of time. My friends said the same thing to me RUNNNNNNN ! . I have a big heart but its not ment for something like this. I have way to much going in my life to be involved with chaos and drama. So i’ve endured her numerous emails professing her love for me and now that know all this stuff about her im just leaving her and im the bad guy. Go figure.
Thank You for your advice i really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Your right. I’ve heard the same from my friends and even a girlfriend of hers.
Im taking the advise and im done with this relationship.
I’ll sit through all the guilt trip emails she sends me making it sound like its all my fault not wanting to be with her but it’s for the best.
My heart and life is not cut out to be in this type of relationship.
Thank You again………..
danny

[Ask April Masini]

You’re welcome. 😀 And consider making it easier on yourself by just blocking her e-mails and all other commnication. It’s better for both of you.

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