[LadyAdams109]

I have been dating this married guy off and on for the years. One year we stayed together and when things got bad he went back to his wife. Our sex life was great. I stop wanted to be with a married man anymore, but he want stop coming around and saying he doesn’t want it to be over with. I’m twenty one years younger than he is. Will he ever get the picture and make things work with his wife. I know in my heart than he is never going to divorce her, that’s why I going to let them be together. Been going through this with them to long and I want to be happy with my own man. He always complaining that thier sex life it’s good as our because she doesn’t do things I do. I told him to explain to her what he would like in thier sex life to make it work. Would he ever leave me alone and let me go on by my business

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have power in this situation…. but you’re not using it. 😳 You’re [i]tricking[/i] yourself into thinking that you’re a victim, but you’re not one. Here’s the situation:

You’re pretty clear that he’ll never leave his wife. And you’re pretty clear that you want your own man. Do the math: you want your own man; he’s never going to leave his wife…. stop banging your head against the wall. Find a man who will be all yours! Not him — someone who wants to be just your man.

As long as you continue to see this guy and to talk to him, he’ll do whatever you’ll allow. So decide what YOU want, find it, and get it! That means that if you want a single man, you have to spend time with single men.

I know this sounds simple — because it is. Use discipline and get busy taking care of yourself and getting out there and dating guys who are single. As for this married guy, just stop picking up the phone and opening the door. It’s really that easy. 😀

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[LadyAdams109]

I have lefted her before, and we have stayed together. I have feeling for him because he was there when I need someone to be there for me. I’m trying to get over him but his sister and I are very close friends. When he hang out together the talk always turns out to be about him, how care complete to thinking about him. I thought we had so much in common, he would make me laugh when I was feeling down, he took me places I never thought I would travel. He was a nice guy but a married man. I feel weak for him because he treated me the way I wanted to be treated from the other guys I was dating bbefore him. He also are sending me messages by other poeple telling me that he still cares for me and want me back. I know in my heart that I will never give him another chance but my mind is saying that I still care for me. I don’t want to date another guy until I get over him because I don’t want to mistreat him for what another treated me. What do I do now.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is that you stop all contact with him, and stop seeing his sister, too. You have to put yourself first. He isn’t.

Being weak isn’t an excuse that works. It’s time for you to be strong and go after what you want. If you want a man who is all yours and doesn’t belong to another woman (his wife), then go for that. If you stay in a situation that isn’t what you want, then you have no one to blame but yourself. No more excuses. 😉

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