[lost4258]

Hello, I have been with my fiance for 4 years now, we have had our rough patches and we both come from different family types, I have been endlessly trying to make right all the wrongs of the past and move forward and I thought we were doing well, we just got engaged this year. He is 4 years older than me I am 23 and he is 27. He never talks to me, he always talks at me. I have tried talking to him about it but he just says things that push my buttons and than we end up fighting. I’m tired of fighting, but anytime he tells me NOT to do something I respond like a rebellious child, I do it anyways and I go to the extremes. He is not my father and I don’t enjoy being told what to do, I know that statement sounds like i’m a spoiled brat but I’m completely the opposite I have worked VERY hard for everything I have and have been very independent pretty much my whole life growing up.
I will take any and all feedback and help here…I truly do love this man and I know deep down he loves me I just need help or pointers on how we can ammend this and move forward!

Your help is greatly appreciated!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like either you’re not ready to get married or else the two of you are not compatible. Whether or not you love each other, if he talks [i]at[/i] you instead of [i]to[/i] you, you’re going to have problems being intimate. Someone who talks at you isn’t listening to you — and doesn’t care to. Maybe this is the way his family has done things, but clearly you’re not happy about this — but instead of behaving rationally, it sounds like you’re acting out. 😮 I don’t think, from what you’ve written, that the two of you are going to have an easy go of things. Re-think the engagement. 😕

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