Because you have a child together, the stakes are a lot higher than if you didn’t. Your child is going to be directly affected by any kind of split and change in living situation, so I don’t think you should kick him out — based on what you’ve written. But it would help to have a little more information. 😉 For instance, you said you’ve been together for four years, but you said that you were together for 2.5 years, then had a 1 year split, then got back together. So I’m not sure if you were together for four years, including that 1 year split, and if so, it seems like you would have gotten pregnant while you were split up from him. So fill me in on the math!
It would also help to know why you split up for a year. The cause of the split, and then the cause of getting back together are important pieces of information. 😉 I’m also not sure if your child was planned or an accident, and if you ever considered getting married, since you’re living together and have a child together.
All that helps – in addition to your ages! Fill me in.
Without that information, I can tell you that it takes time and commitment, ironically, to build a relationship when there’s been a betrayal. Unless someone is a chronic cheater, which it doesn’t sound like he is, betrayal doesn’t happen in a vacuum. In other words, there’s a reason for it that has to do with both of you. When you’re able to figure out your part in it, and make some changes, your relationship will heal.
And while it’s normal to feel angry, you have to remember that your child comes first here, and so sometimes you have to acknowledge your feelings, and then do the right thing, rather than acting on what you feel.
I hope that helps. I’ll write more when you fill me in, further.
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