[amys87]

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a 5 month old baby and we dont seem to be making love as much as we use to all he want to do is go on porn every day he waits till im asleep so he can go on it ive tryed talking to him about how it makes me feel but he doesnt listen all he say is its only porn hes not doing anything wrong and he says he still loves me and that he wants to be with me but I dont feel loved or wanted I feel like Porn as took over are sex life what do I do with him I really want him to stop but he wont

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not alone. This is a big problem for a lot of couples. What’s happened is that your boyfriend has lost interest in sex in the bedroom. It’s easy to point out why — having a new baby is exhausting, your sex drive probably isn’t what it used to be, and the two of you aren’t the couple with no responsibilities — you’re probably saddled with lots of them, which isn’t sexy! Now, you have to get the X back in your sex life, and that extends beyond the bedroom.

My advice is that you focus on what YOU can do to make yourself and your sex life more enticing. Don’t tell him you’re unhappy and point fingers. Instead, make sure the two of you have some date nights, some time without the baby (relatives who can babysit or a paid babysitter are great), and that you’ve got some great sexy lingerie, a new hair style, you’re working on losing the baby weight if you haven’t already, etc. I think you see where I’m going with this.

Hope that helps!

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[amys87]

Thats what I dont understand because all this started before I become pregnant and when we first got the put on internet on bout 6 months into are relationship I fort he would of stoped by now but its just getting worst I feel worthless and like im not good enough for him anymore

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Thanks for the extra information. 😉 If this problem began before you got pregnant, which was almost a year and a half ago, and you’ve only been together for two years, that means your sex life began to flag after six months of dating. Now, it’s been like that for over a year. It sounds like you’re in a rut, and you’re blaming him instead of focusing on what you can do to make your sex life with him more interesting and alluring.

Did you try any of the suggestions I gave you? That would be a great place to start. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself and your relationship if you work towards making things better in the bedroom. I’ve also written a book that helps couples put the X back in their sex lives. You can buy it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url]. It’s an automatically downloaded e-book, and it’s only $8.99, so you can get it today and start reading and implementing the dates and the tips and advice in it, tonight!

What I’m reading between the lines is that you want to blame him and the porn he’s watching for the problems in your sex life, instead of doing anything yourself. It’s time to change your outlook and see if you can help your relationship and yourself. 😉

I hope that works for you. Let me know how things go. 🙂

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