[Anonymous]

Yeah I know…my girlfriend wants sex more than I do, what the hell? Well here’s the deal. I am divorced and so is my girlfriend. I am 53 she is 32. Most of the time we tear it up just great and have no problems. In fact I am surprised at my own performance since for the last 20 years of my marriage I had absolutely no intimacy at all, and I never cheated. But I work, I go to work early and I need to be asleep by at least 11. She has a 3 year old daughter so we don’t have time for ourselves until she goes to bed usually around 9. Here’s my problem. We will usually make love 3 or 4 times after she goes to bed, and it is great, but most of the time she wants to just keep going and going until like 1 or 2 in the monrning and I just need more sleep. Sometimes after we have made love 3 or 4 times I get so tired that as we lay there cuddling and talking after the last time I start to fall asleep. Sometimes she is understanding but sometimes she gets pissed at me. So, how do I handle t his? I love her and love our intimacy. On days when her little girl is with her father we can go all day long and many times we do, but on the week days when I have to get up for work the next day I just can’t go until the wee hours of the morning so how do I avoid making her angry or making her feel bad when I just physically need to sleep? Thanks in advance for your help.

[Ask April Masini]

If you can’t work, you’re not going to be a happy camper or a good boyfriend, and she has to find the maturity to understand this. Relationships are about compromises if they’re to work at all, so tell her how sexy she is and how you love your sex life together, but that you have to have limits in order to sleep and be productive at work.

If she doesn’t understand this request or honor it, she may not have the maturity to go the distance. Once you get over the fact that this is a problem in the bedroom, the root of it is selfishness. She’s wanting more than you can give her, and you’re not being stingy — in fact, you’re being very generous. My guess is that this dynamic may extend to other areas outside the bedroom, so take this situation seriously.

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