[kipp]

i had my girlfriend move in with me a year ago. i basically handle everything. she say’s she gets to overwhelmed exept when it something she really wants. she had told me before she moved in that she had sex with her ex husband while with her last 2 boyfriends. she talks about her ex quite a bit and she had me look up on facebook to try and find out what she looks like. i understand curiosty. but she say’s she doesn’t want him with anyone that looks better than her. so i sometimes wonder if she is really over him. and now i’m thinking to myself if he did want to have sex with her again would she do it. we had a fight and she said she can’t be with someone who doesn’t trust her. but with the info i have it’s hard to now. but i did know about this before she move in. she wanted to leave and end it now 2 day’s later she wants to stay but she really doesn’t have anywere to go. she ask her family and her ex husband and they all said no. do you think she wants to be with me or it’s just convienent to stay here. also do i have trust issues. should i just stay with her or should i end it. thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s using you — although I’m a little stumped as to why it’s taken you a year of living with her to question this problem….. 😕 She’s definitely still interested in her ex-husband. And the fact that she told you cheated on her last two boyfriends with her ex-husband, and wants you to make sure her ex-husband isn’t dating anyone prettier than her so your job is to check his Facebook account, is a flashing red light. 😳

You’re not a landlord and I hope you’re not a chump. It’s time to tell her to move out. She can take a room at the YMCA or a local hotel if her family won’t take her in (another red flag!). Her housing isn’t your problem.

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[kipp]

thanks april. i know she has feelings for me, but your right. i am being used and i don’t know if she’ll ever get over her ex husband. so much has happened i don’t know if it can be salvaged.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

What needs to be salvaged is you! Be honest with yourself about who she is and what this relationship REALLY is, and save yourself. She’s an adult and the kids are hers. The only thing you’re really in charge of is you! This isn’t a good relationship for you. I know it’s hard, but it’s time to move on.

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[kipp]

your right april and i hate to bother you with the same problem. i did end it. i told her that i wasn’t with you for money and she said she isn’t with me for money so i told her you pay your half of everything which would leave her with 3 dollars and i’ll keep my money and see how far love goes. well she came back the same afternoon with her daughter and said she was moving. i told her if you leave the lease goes by the month so in 2 day’s i pay the rent and your not on the lease anymore. she took some things and i told her she could leave her things here until she gets setup. i asked her for the key and she gave it to me. she asked for her email address and i told her i deleted it which i did and i also deleted her facebook account. it’s my computer it was on. when she was leaving she said her nerves are torn apart and she said mine are probably too. she said she loves me but its funny how money makes a difference. i’ll just chock it up to experience. it hurts alittle that it had to be this way but like you said i need to take care of myself. thanks for all your help. i’m so glad you were here and were honest. take care and i hope you reply one last time.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome. 😀

You might want to use your spare time to read a book I wrote for men who want to win the dating game, called Date Out of Your League: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. You’re going to get back out there, and next time around, you get the opportunity to date even smarter based on your new knowledge — and this book will give you a lot of tips and advice to keep your on course for Ms. Right. 😉

Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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