[Lovergirl19]

Hello I am 19 and me and my boyfriend have a baby on the way. Sorry if this is long. Well we have almost been dating for a year and don’t get me wrong I love this guy. However; he has always talked to girls hide it and lied. Sent this woman a picture of him randomly and just said he just felt like it. Well after I found out I was pregnant he kept making me feel horrible. I need feel like I can do anything right and here he is still hiding stuff. Even though I told him from day one to just tell me what girls you talk to and what about so ill know if something happens. Well I met my guy friend cause I was tired of his bull and well he took advantage and did stuff to me I never wanted or even asked for. I couldn’t go home an tell my boyfriend I was scared.

This was 3 months ago and I told him about a week ago. He is still here for some crazy reason. He says he loves me and in time everything will work out. I just have a big feeling he is still talking to these girls and he won’t respect me. I mean once you disrespect someone why should you start over if you told them a thousand times you were sorry and it won’t happen again? I just would love any advice. It getting harder now that our baby is coming. I know he will be a wonderful dad, just don’t know how he will keep treatin me.

Also how can I cope and get all this out of my mind? Like wanting to always look at his phone and stuff. Cause he don’t even put it down when I’m around. And when I’m near him he won’t take it out. =

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem is that you are acting like a victim, and as long as continue acting like a victim, you will be one. 😳 You have the freedom to change your behavior, but until you do, you’re going to be putting yourself in the same situations over and over.

You wrote: [quote]I love this guy. However; he has always talked to girls hide it and lied.[/quote]

If he’s always talked to girls and lied about it, why did you or do you expect him to do anything differently? 🙁 You know who he is, and how he behaves, yet you continued to date him and get pregnant with him. Well, the only thing that can change is you. I’m not sure why you love someone who lies to you and cheats on you, but that’s a bigger problem.

You should leave him, so you don’t have to live with someone who lies and cheats — but he will always be in your life as the father for your child, and that’s why it’s important for YOU to make sure you set up boundaries in your own life and start making honesty a priority for your life. 😀

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[Lovergirl19]

Thank you it makes more sense now. And I say I love him cause even when he does wrong I think if all the great things he has done. Like be with me when I have gone crazy and I found out I got an std (before pregnant) and he stayed with me and being pregnant he hasn’t have up even tho most guys would. It’s just so hard I’m trying to change myself to be a better person and not be “too jealous” it’s just hard when every guy I’ve dated has treated me all the same. I’m just not sure if I should leave him for good or see where it goes? But I know he will never change so I guess u got my answer.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have a great opportunity to make changes in your own character — for the sake of your child. 😉 He or she will model what they see you do.

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[Lovergirl19]

Thank you so much.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome!

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