[shivy86]

Hey Everyone,

Very new to this but Ive been going crazy and decided that help from people outside of my situation maybe the best solution to my problem.

I started dating a guy a few months ago that I met on an online dating site, things have been going well but then i found out I got a job overseas so id be leaving we discussed it and decided that wed try out the long distance and see what if it worked for us. The sex has been okay but he sometimes has a problem maintaining an erection which can be a little frusterating for me especially since I try and be as adventourous as possible in the bedroom so it doesnt get boring. He is on anti-depressants and I know this is a side effect of the meds but its been happening more frequently… ok now que the trust issues

He still has his online dating profile and he was messaged by a girl they exchanged a few messages only to find out she in fact knew me…apparently he told her i was his girlfriend and she said then what are you doing on here and immediately facebooked me to tell me about it. We talked about it he apologized said she messaged him and that he was only thinking about “US” and brining her into the bedroom possibly…I kind of believed it but now im like wtf is wrong with me. I recently was given his password for something by him I didnt sneak but i found out this password was the same one for his online dating account so obviously i was freaking out and decided to take a look he had messaged some 36 yr old women who is not attractive for an intimate encounter like last week…how do i bring this up to him..i mean i shouldnt have been on there and i feel terrible about it but i felt like i was backed into a corner. Do i confront him? just ask him to get rid of his online profile as i think its disrespectful or break up with him…Any help would be sooo much appreciated I feel sick to my stomach about this whole situation.

Thanks
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[April Masini, your AskApril]

Seriously? 😯

Your boyfriend has his online dating profile up. He hasn’t taken it down. That’s sign number one that he’s still dating other women. Then you hear from a friend of yours who met him on this online dating site, that he was interested in her. That’s sign number two. Then he tells you (a lie) that he wanted her as a third in the bedroom. If it’s true, it’s sign number three. If it’s not true, it’s ALSO sign number three. Then, you sneak onto his dating site account and find out he’s solicited sex from someone last week. That’s sign number four.

How many signs do you need before you realize he’s not interested in monogamy with you?

Don’t bother bringing it up with him. There’s nothing he can say to make this one go away. Save your energy and just move on. Short and sweet. 😉

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