You’ve put your finger on one of the biggest problems men and women your age have — transitioning from friendship as classmates to romantic relationships as teenagers. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but when you begin to get involved in romance and dating, as you get older, you’ll find that men and women can’t be friends because it’s too confusing, there is miscommunication, hurt and deception. 😥 You’re trying to preserve a friendship with this guy, but the reality is that if you like him and want to date him, you’re not really thinking of him as a friend any more….and the relationship has already changed.
My advice is to accept that you’re growing up and things are changing. If you like a guy, flirting with him is the best way to let him know you’re interested in him as more than a friend. This gives him something “to chase” after and win over. In other words, if he sees you like him, and he likes you, he’s more likely to ask you out on a date.
Yes, there is risk involved, and the risk is the friendship — but if you don’t let him know you’re interested and you see him dating someone else — you’re going to be upset. And…. he’s going to want your support and advice on the new relationship, and the reality is that you won’t be able to be honest with him because you’ll want to be his girlfriend, but you’re going to feel you have to hide that from him, and now you’re lying to a dear friend — which isn’t going to make for an honest or true friendship. Do you see where this is going?
I think you have to risk the friendship and flirt with him so he knows how you feel. 😉
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