[Anonymous]

just to clarify a few things i helped her pay her rent and bills because she asked for help and because i love her i was more than willing to help her in anyway that i could i feel very hurt because she said all these things to me during the relationship and now a feel a fool for beleaveing her and like i said she said were on a brake not broke up and i dont understand the differance. if theres a chance of getting back together then thats great and what i want more than anything but if its over then i just want to know so i can try and move on with my life .

[Anonymous]

I am downloading the book and I wonder how this is going to help me

[Anonymous]

I am downloading the first one, and I just wanted to know how this book will help me

[Anonymous]

Hello There,

Thanks very much for replaying my e-mail. I guess that what you said makes sense and that we do expect to have a commitment with somebody you love and want to be with. I can’t really guarantee that he haven’t been dating people while we weren’t living at the same place, specially when we broke up. However, I don’t think that is something you could say with 100% of sure even when you sleep together with the person everyday. Anyways, we have talked ,since I wrote to you last, and we decided to get back together as a serious couple. He will come to visit and meet my family and that’s a big step for us. I really wish that I could spend more time with him at the same place, but that’s not possible for the moment. Now, while he could be eventually dating more girls at different countries. I guess that would probably make his bank account go down to $zero,and money becomes a big problem in this case. Anyways, thanks for the advice. I hope that I wont get hurt. Even though, there are chances of happening as you said.

sincerely
S

[Anonymous]

Hi, April. I’ve been mulling over what you told me the past few weeks. I have been offered a job in the city – its mine for the taking. However, I have yet to decide whether to take it and relocate or not (right now I’m more inclined to turn it down) as I’ve been thinking about what you said, about how a change of scenery or residence would do me little good if I didn’t fix myself first. The move is something that I take seriously, but I have indeed been wondering whether or not I’d move up there and then feel as though nothing was different. At this point, I honestly feel that I’d feel largely the same as I feel down here (though I think I’d be better off in some ways and worse off in others). At any rate, you said that I needed to work on myself first, or else it wouldn’t change. It may sound somewhat ignorant of me to ask, but what do you perceive needs work, and what can I do to change it? Sorry if it sounds like a dumb question, but maybe it would sink in more if I heard it, since I’m having trouble grasping it on my own (not that I’m unintrlligent, but, as we have already established, I can be ignorant to some things). Thanks again, April…and try not to be too harsh.

[Anonymous]

That must have really confused and hurt you.
The only thing you can really do is ask him about it, without him getting angry.
You need to sit down, when he’s sober and ask him. If he gets angry, just stay calm and ask why he’s getting angry.
I cant really think of anything else you can do. Talking to the girl herself would only cause more problems I imagine.

[Anonymous]

It’s actually kind of nice to get advice without someone sugar coating it. Thanks for the help, that makes a lot of sense.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for replying and the advice! I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much about this, although it is looking better than it was. I have a good feeling everything will work out for some reason, I just hope it does! I did decide before that i’d meet her only if there was something still there and not just as friends. As time has gone on though I feel I need a straight answer which she hasn’t really given me. The only downside like is, that it will hurt if she doesn’t want to get back together but i’m just going to accept that and move on…

I just reckon that maybe when she actually does see me for the first time in 3 months that might trigger something. Also all the amazing things we did (like travelling), its not something you do with just anyone!

Just wondering what advice you have to go about this when we meet… How should I ask her? I was thinking of just catching up to start with and easing into it. I’ve also been thinking that maybe she’ll bring it all up eventually, you never know! She surprised me last time when we got back together.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

THANKS APRIL! 😀 <3 xxx

[Anonymous]

id suggest asking her about it, or inviting yourself to thier hangouts
or just be friendly with her husband until he feels what you feel

[Anonymous]

Thanks very much for your input. I feel that I have invested enough time in this relationship and dont feel like it needs to go any further. This has been going on for awile. If I did win her over than it would be a infidelity issue. Im at the age were I dont wont to wast any more time. I dont feel like its enough there to continue.Right nown this relationship is like soft concrete the longer I stay in it the harder it will be to get out. I desided to walk away .Easier said than done. Im going to continue dating , searching for a one mans woman. You folks are Great.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I watched the movie and it was pretty clear they weren’t compatible. But I never felt like that, I always tell used to tell myself, if she isn’t the one then no one is. Maybe the timing was just a little off. My step dad and mom broke up sometime after high school for like 3 or so years and now have been married for like 17 yrs or something. But who knows, she may or may not be the one, I’ll just leave that in Gods hands. But no doubt my life was better with her then with out her. But thanks again April, you have helped. Even, just talking about it helped.

[Anonymous]

She was having a thing with this 20 year old before she knew I liked her, so that’s not possible.

April? Can you give me some help?

[Anonymous]

Thanks April,

I don’t think what i feel is healthy. You put it so bluntly which was a shock – but it doesnt really provide me with helpful information i can use to assist with the issue.

Any more ideas?

[Anonymous]

I know this may sound weird but watch porn. Just because you give him oral doesn’t mean that you can’t try a different technique when you are doing it (like play with his balls or something,hehe) My bf loves it when i talk dirty to him but I couldn’t do it without laughing so i watched porn and finally got “serious” about it . I tell how much pleasure he gives me and how i love his… I really feed that ego. I also got better at oral and hand jobs, and let him watch me do things to myself. I take control, just different stuff. Now he talks dirty to me, haha. Anyway, I hope this helps 😀

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