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The way April dissects situations need to be studied in schools. The way she seperated the problem you presented and the actual underlying problem. I love that. Not everyone one can cut through your defensive framing like she did. Just focus on John and confront joan on how you feel about her inserting herself in your dynamics with John

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April’s advise is a behavioral strategy. One of the healthy ways we are taught to handle dramatic situations like this is to DISENGAGE instead of reinforcing the drama. Behavioral psyche 101. The drama betty craves can;’t happen without you. April’s solution is behavioral, situational and solution focused, and that’s what you need.

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Three times! Three times, he’s shown that being with you overwhelms him. This will keep happening. WAhjat kind of relationship do you think you are building when your investment is your partner’s pet peeve.

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My husband says “fuck you” to me

He will never change! Run! You deserve better. You are a high value woman. THERE ARE OTHER OPTIONS OPEN TO YOU. It is so sad to see how years of being eith this man has eroded your self esteem. Damn! You are more capable than you think.

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I don’t think you needed April’s advise, you just wanted her permission to keep talking to the unavailable guy. We all have a pattern of recreating our earlier relationships. That’s why both of your options a re unavailable men.

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I think my reply was too harsh, 6 years of being together with some one is a lot. They are part of you. Youbsee them in everything yo do. Why did you guys break up

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Just move on. In how many ways do you have to be told it’s over. Focus on yourself.

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You should apologize to her, but she also needs to understand that children can be weird at times and say weird stuff.

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😂😂😂I have a theory, that when a girls tries to have sex with you on the first day, it is because she’s not thinking about dating you. If she did, she would be worried about seeming cheap to you and wouldn’t want to have sex that fast. She wanted a one night stand (maybe a fling later) But you were thinking about a relationship, so you missed your chance to hit.😂😂

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You’re 18. She’s 32. That’s a lot of experience gap. Your couldn’t have done better than you did. She’s just insane. Most people carry their first time experience on their mind for the rest of their life because they had no one to tell them that what happened was normal. I hope that’s not the case for you. So, pick yourself up

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Man up! You don’t have to be scared to show your hand, nothing is wrong with her knowing you like her as long as you’re not fingerling. Take the lead, keep trying, you’re the man. I do think she likes you.

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Good thing you broke up with him. From the beginning of your story to the end , i really didn’t see any positive outcome. He either cheats, like he did, abandon you by leaving or dying

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You’ve only been married for a month at the time you wrote this message, and there was this much drama within tht time. It is as if you didn’t date at all or you were blinded BY LOVE or she was pretending. Your situation is odd. I think you should leave this marriage.

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Honestly, your choice is better than what most would do, cheating.

You’re happy with what you have, don’t beat yourself down.

You said your ex, his friend, coworkers and your sister are mad at you. I really don’t think any of them really matter that much.

If they care to listen talk to them let them see you POV, if they don’t goodluck to them

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If you hang around long enough, he’s gonna get what he originally wanted from the start, “friends with benefit” and you will never get what you want “a committed relationship.” I do respect his honesty though. Some me would lie and tell you they love you just top get into your pant.

He’s not doing this to hurt you or anyone, this is just how he has learnt to love due to his background, avoidant-attachment style, and it is not just going to disapear in a single night, he has to work on himself first and recondition himself

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