[mhmcdade]

Okay, so last week I hung with my friend and his girlfriend. They also invited his girlfriends friend to come with. She is really cute. I got to know her, and I just got interested, because I am happy to hear she is interested in guitar and has same favorite band as me. I asked my friends girlfriend over facebook if i can have her friends number. So she gave it to me. The next day, I texted her. We have good texting conversations. It jus goes back and forth. Just, if she likes me, she would text first right? Last night she said at end of the conversation, “do you mind if I text you in the morning, or later?” I’m like, “yeah, hit me up if you want” ..”yeap” she said. Well, I have just been waiting and hoping she would text first. But nothing. I know, could be plenty of reason, and that the day isnt over yet. I just wanted to ask, is there just one bid sign i can pick up over a text, or something I can ask without letting her know I’m into her like that, that would let me know if she is interested or not. I havnt called her. It’s too random! I’m just getting to know the girl…i don’t know. Please help :/

[Ask April Masini]

When you texted, “Hit me up if you want,” you telegraphed disinterest in her. What you could have texted to let her know you like her is something like, “Yeah, I’d love to hear from you.” She may have decided you’re not very interested in her because your invitation for her to text you [b]if [/b]she wants to, but not indicating that you want her to, was too cool — and not in the good way — in the icy cold temperature way. 😳

All that said, my big piece of advice to you is to just ask her out. You’re not proposing marriage — just coffee or a movie. If you show her your cards and let her know you like her enough to spend some time with her alone to get to know her better, and she, you, you’ll have a much better idea how she feels, how you feel, and how you are together.

So step it up: Risk a small rejection and gamble on a big payoff — and ask her on a date! 🙂

[Anonymous]

Thank you so much. I did it. Sadly, I think I got rejected. Like I asked her over text if she would like to hangout sometime. She said yea sure.. What time? I said 5 or 7? She said cool
10 minutes later she said, actually, my dad won’t let me do anything. He said I have too many chores to do. I’m like, okay. Then I texted her later. No response, and again few minutes later. No response, Is that a nice girls way of turining down a guy? Hah man .. Sucks!

[Ask April Masini]

It could be that you got shot down — or it could be that she really is busy. Stop texting her multiple times a day. It projects desperation. Women like men who are confident, and to project confidence, you should give the texts a rest for a few days, and call her next week to ask her out again. If she says no again, then you should move on. But ease up a little, and give it a second shot.

[mhmcdade]

So I found out from her friend, her dad took her phone away and that she likes me. And few weeks later. She gets her phone back..that’s today. She says to me from her friends phone, i got my phone back, i will text you when i get home. I’m like sweet, and I look forward to it. I waited and waited and then alter tonight I texted first and she responded with, I’m sorry I didn’t text you. I was at a game and then I had chores to do. I’m thinking, if shes even into me, she would remember to text me like she said right? If she likes me, she would text me first often wouldnt she? I want to ask her to hang out again, but it would be for the THIRD TIME
…cuz I told you the first, but the second, and she said she wont be able to until she gets heer phone back. When I talk to her, it sounds as if she really doesnt care. Her texts are lenghty sometimes, but still…i don’t get it…

[Ask April Masini]

The only way to figure out how much she likes you is to ask her out, and if she says yes, then she likes you enough to go out with you. Since the first time you asked her out, her father wouldn’t let her go for some reason, and then there was miscommunication because her father took her phone away, it’s now time for you to ask her out again.

Be very clear, and if she continues to not go out with you or not respond to your texts in a positive way, it’s time for you to move on.

Getting out of text world is an excellent idea for you because it seems that the texts are causing you a lot of anxiety, so considering calling her to ask her out or giving it one more shot by text, and then moving on if you get rejected.

I hope that helps.

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