[Smara]

When the girl was following you for three years, then you were seeing her “looks” and “weight”. Now, when he chose his self-respect, Yuvraj suddenly fall in love with her? This is not love; this is just ego that woke up after getting hurt.
You don’t want to be her boyfriend anymore, but “best friend”, this is the biggest lie in the world. You just want to be a part of her life in the hope that maybe someday she will melt.
Wao, AskApril i really impressed with your opinion, which gave mental clarity on how to remove the fog that exists between friendship and love.
AskApril! You tried to pull her out of the river, but Yuvraj only likes to drown!

[Smara]

By the way, this girl is very smart. She dropped the “kiss” bombshell right at the moment she found out you were single. This “I can’t cross the line” talk is just a smokescreen so that if the breakup, she can say, “I told you from the start we’re just friends.” She wants to enjoy all the perks without taking any of the responsibility.
If you just want art, enjoy it, but if you’re looking for “happily ever after”, then dear, this girl will just make you do mental gymnastics. She doesn’t think of you as a friend, but as her ego booster.
AskApril was absolutely right that you’re looking for problems in the middle of nowhere. That response was positive, and she shouldn’t be making things worse by labeling small things as “hot and cold”

[Smara]

Your high school friend was just using her for “emotional backup.” When he wanted fun, he would talk about sex, and when it came to responsibility, he would remember his “Catholic values.”
Your biggest mistake was that you were seeing “potential” in men, not reality. You were crying for a guy who was 22 years old, didn’t work, lived on his uncle’s money, and didn’t even respect you.
Wow, AskApril! You gave great expert advice that, in such a situation, a girl doesn’t need a man, but a good therapist and “self-love” so that she doesn’t allow such “samples” into her life again.

[Smara]

You’re saying that your arguments used to be over small things. Listen, fights over trivial matters only happen when there’s a much bigger underlying issue or when you have an obsession with “winning” every single match. This patience he claims to have is only in his words for now; the real test will be the moment someone pinches his ego again.
At this age, when a man says I have learned, it often means, I don’t dare to fight anymore; someone just needs to adjust now.
Anyway, the line Relationships have two people is only said by those who admit their mistake but immediately divide it 50% so that the burden of conscience is light. That is, half the mistake is mine, half is yours!

[Smara]

Your friends are right: If you haven’t asked him, “What are we?” and you’ve decided to move on, be prepared to post an “It’s complicated” status later. Men often don’t commit until they have to. Check to see if he’s just into fun dates or if he’s thinking about the future?
I don’t think the number of dates matters; safety, trust, and respect do. If you’re having to “ask” when is the right time, trust me, it’s not yet. When the time comes, the questions will be over.
Enjoy a few more “fun dates” for now, the guy isn’t running away!

[Smara]

Hi Hannah you think that “maybe he’s getting tired of me” is a natural fear, but it’s often just a communication gap rather than a loss of attraction. After six years, a relationship needs a little extra effort to reignite that spark.
I think you should set aside some “unplugged” time with Stephen, free of phones and distractions. Sometimes, you have to explicitly tell a man, This is very important to me, so that he knows to shift his full focus to you.
As for the rest, AskApril will give you expert advice, and I am also looking forward to hearing what she has to say

[Smara]

You’re not feeling guilty for the girl; you’re afraid of becoming a bad person. You’re hoping she makes a mistake, yells at you, or cheats so you can have a solid excuse to break up.
Right now, you’re only stuck because society views leaving a good girl as a sin. Spark doesn’t die on its own; boredom kills Spark, and you’ve both put your relationship in “uncle aunt” mode in just 3 years!
Hi AskApril, there’s a guy here who says his girlfriend is perfect, but his spark has gone out.
I want to ask you, is this really losing the spark or just a new addiction to male nature that gets bored with the same old things quickly?
And April, if this guy is only sitting with this nice girl out of guilt, isn’t he cheating on her? Is being ‘kind and supportive’ so boring that a man needs a little drama and toxicity to feel alive?

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