[Rose]

Yes, that is definitely possible—it may just take time. But you can be the biggest help in making him move on faster. Show him that you’re there for him and that you won’t leave him like his wife did.

Try to do things together that will help you build good memories—shared hobbies, travel, and spending more quality time with each other. The more time you spend together and the more positive experiences you create, the easier it can be for him to slowly let go of the past.

[Rose]

Get out of the friend zone if you can. Follow her to Ireland—wherever she is—why not, if she allows it, so things can become easier. It’s really hard when you’re far apart; long-distance setups like that rarely succeed.

Court her and show your intentions directly. Nothing will happen if all you do is wait. You are the one who has to take action and figure out how to win her over.

[Rose]

Just be natural. You can start by being friendly first so the woman feels safe and comfortable around you. Then you can invite her for coffee. If she agrees, try to get her number so you can continue talking.
If you just wait for a chance encounter, you don’t really know if it will happen again—you can’t control that. You’re the one who needs to take action instead of relying on luck or chance.

[Rose]

It’s not necessary to have experience right away—being a virgin in your 20s is completely normal. The reason you’re feeling anxiety is because you’re afraid of being embarrassed, and you’re overthinking what the woman might say or think about you. You’re putting too much pressure on yourself because you feel like you should already know what to do.
Just calm down and be honest with yourself. Don’t expect too much from yourself or the situation. Where you’re going wrong is that you’re putting yourself under too much pressure and overthinking everything. Do you get it?

[Rose]

I think he likes you. There’s something different in the way he’s acting now compared to the first few weeks you were together. It seems like he can’t really stay just “friendly” with you anymore because he may already be developing romantic feelings.

Maybe he just doesn’t have the courage yet, and he’s still looking for the right timing or opportunity to show it.

[Rose]

You can start the conversation by giving her a compliment about her being a doctor. Then tell her she’s beautiful, and invite her to dinner—on your treat. If she agrees, make sure to get her phone number right away so you can continue talking and stay in touch.

[Rose]

Focus on healing yourself first—give your body and emotions time to recover. Work on improving your self-image, and make sure you’re open in communicating with your partner. Don’t pressure yourself about sex for now. Manage your stress and emotions, and most importantly, maintain a healthy lifestyle. In this way, your sex drive can gradually return.

[Rose]

Don’t text him for now—just ignore him for the moment. If he’s acting like that toward you, then let it be. Men don’t like it when women keep chasing them.
Second, you met online and you don’t even have an official label yet, so I think this guy might also be seeing other people besides you. That’s pretty common in online dating—they usually talk to more than one person.
So it’s better not to expect too much from him for now. Try talking to other people too instead of stressing yourself out thinking about him all the time.

[Rose]

It’s normal to feel sad when you think about the fact that she’ll be leaving in two months. That kind of feeling is hard to avoid. But it’s better to focus on the time you still have together while she’s still there. Make the most of every moment you spend with her. Just enjoy what you have right now, and when the time comes for her to leave, that’s when you can think about what’s best for both of you moving forward.

[Rose]

Don’t be afraid. Everyone goes through a first time. Just be natural and show who you really are. You shouldn’t be ashamed that you’ve never had a girlfriend or even held a woman’s hand. And you don’t really need to tell a woman that right away—there’s no point in putting yourself down or making yourself feel less confident.

[Member]

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