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April Masini.
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July 28, 2009 at 4:14 pm #1101
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ParticipantThere this guy that I really like…but he’s dating my friend. Well that’s not it. When I told him that I like him a few weeks ago…he said he was sorry and that he didn’t like me. I was actually perfectly fine and was getting over him. Than one day I asked him if he ever liked me and he told me that he just started to like me. I was shocked! 😮 I told him that I still liked him and he said it was good. After that we have been really close. Whenever we were going to say goodbye he would always tell me that he was going to miss me, and I said the same. Well he’s also been acting like he likes me a lot. Like last time when I talked to him he would walk with me off to a place a little off from his friends and we would talk, than we would return to the group. Also when I asked him online If his girlfriend never existed what would his life be like now? H e said he would be with me. He also looks at me different, I’ve known him for 5 years and he’s never looked at me like that before, I just felt my heart jump. That afternoon I was talking to his friend and I told him that everything that had happened. He said that there was other girls that had said that had liked him including his ex girlfriend. He also said that he wants to get back with his ex girlfriend. Well when I went home I went online to talk to him. I told him everything that his friend has said. He said he’s not getting back with all the girls, and when he said it he made a list of all the girls that he was not getting back with. There was 5, and his CURRENT girlfriend’s name was on there!!!😮 So I was like “her” (meaning his current girlfriend) and he told me that they were drifting apart because they haven’t talked in a long time. I was shocked to hear that. He also told me that he wants a good bye kiss from me before I leave.
Well now it’s weird, I don’t know what’s going to happen next, If i’m going to get with him or what! I do want to get closer to him but I don’t know how. I also don’t know what he’s thinking and what’s he going to decide and I want to know. I’m scared of the ending!July 29, 2009 at 7:47 pm #9723April Masini
KeymasterYou sure do like drama! It’s no wonder you want to know what’s going to happen next. You’re creating your own personal romantic thriller. But I have to advise you to hit up the library and check out a stack of romances where no one in real life will get hurt. What you’re doing is going to get a lot of people hurt including you. First of all, find someone to date or flirt with who isn’t dating your friend. You’re going to lose a friend in the process if you start dating this guy.
Second of all, if this guy really liked you that much, he wouldn’t be dating your friend. He’d be dating you. He’s playing you, and if he’s playing you now, he’ll play you again when he’s your boyfriend, if that ever happens.
Third, the reason he walks you away from a group of friends is because he doesn’t want his friends to know or think he likes you. If a guy really likes you, he’s going to want to show you off and be proud that you’re his. He’s keeping you on the side, and that means you’re not that important to him.
I think you can do a lot better than this guy. Find someone who’s willing to put you first and foremost, and isn’t going to flirt with you and ask for a big kiss when he’s already got a girlfriend. You should be with someone who wants you to be number one. Not next in line.
July 29, 2009 at 8:27 pm #9722ParticipantWell April yesterday before I read what you had said, I was talking with him online. I told him that I couldn’t stop thinking about him. I told him that I was lifeless until I talked to him. He told me that he knew what I meant. Than we just talked, than he asked me what would happen if we were together? I told him that I would love him and care about him and would be there for him even if it hurt me. Well than he said that it would be the 1st for him. Than he said that he liked me more. Well than i asked him who this “girl” was…that all his friends were talking about. He said that it was this girl that he promised to date once she came back. Well than he said that it was going to be hard to date her and let all of girls go (meaning me and the other girls that like him). Well after that we just talked and before he left he told me that he loved me. Now I’m totally lost? What’s he trying to do??? July 30, 2009 at 3:05 pm #9728KeymasterHe’s playing you. He’s manipulating you. He’s taking advantage of you. An “I love you,” from a guy who’s simultaneously dating your friend, promising to date someone else when she gets back in town, and who clearly wants to date a lot of women at the same time, means nothing. I bet he says, “I love you,” to several girls several times each day. Talk is cheap, and this guy’s talk is bargain basement cheap!
If you date this guy you will be one of many girls he’s doing this to. You will never be his one and only. He’s going to tell lots of women he loves them, and that he wants to be with them while he’s with you and/or other women at the same time. He’s not a one woman guy by a long shot.
You’re going to get your heart broken. You’re going to create and be part of a lot of drama if you continue talking to and seeing this guy.
Drop this guy and find a guy who is actually available and wants you for who you are, and not just as another conquest or notch in his belt. Find someone who values you, and who will be loyal and supportive and give you his whole heart and attention. You’ll have a lot more fun and a lot more romance that way. Unless you do this, you’re going to devalue yourself, and I would hate to see that for you.
July 31, 2009 at 2:17 am #9915ParticipantThanks for your advice April I guess I’ll try that. January 9, 2016 at 11:35 pm #31597KeymasterLet me know how things are going for you…. 😀 -
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