boyfriend won’t express any feelings

Hello,
I hope you can help. I am going crazy. I have been dating this guy for over 2 months now and I’m really having feelings of love for him. The problem is this–he has only been divorced for a year and I fear that it is too soon for him to love anyone else. He seems distant and never says anything about how he feels about me. I wrote in to another forum and said that I talked with him Sat. night about how it bothers me that I have deep feelings for him and I don’t think he feels the same. He was very nice when we were talking, but didn’t comment on what I said other than to say that he has had other women tell him the same in past relationships (that he is emotionally unavailable). A woman answered my post by saying I had seriously damaged the relationship by talking to him about that and that he is on the rebound and not over his divorce and I should move on. I hope that is not the case. He has texted me since then and is not acting any different, so I hope I didn’t seriously damage things by telling him how I felt. I had been holding it in for a while and it was bothering me, but I don’t know that it helped things by telling him.

I have been divorced for four years and am ready for a serious long-term relationship. Do you think it is just too soon for him and he won’t be able to develop any feelings of love for me? He has dated quite a few women in the past year since he has been divorced–so apparently the relationships haven’t lasted long.

Am I just expecting him to feel something for me too soon? Or do you think he would have feelings for me by now if he was going to. This Friday, it will be 9 weeks since we started going out. Another thing that bothers me is that he seems to have jumped into a “comfortableness” in that the newness has worn off for him and he doesn’t treat me special. He is very nice to me, but the going out to dinner, a movie, or dancing hasn’t happened for about 4 weeks now. We have never even had an argument or even the slightest disagreement and we get along great. I just can’t figure him out–he only acted really affectionate the first few weeks we started going out. Now, the only thing affectionate he does is hold my hand when we watch tv. We only see each other on fri. and saturdays, and when we get together, we only kiss if I walk up to him and initiate it. Do you think this is just his personality–or do you think his lack of affection is an indication of him not having any deep feelings for me?