In need of Advice

Hi April,
I managed to find this site after searching for a way to get advice. I have found your site to be amazing and very informative! Hopefully, you might have some ideas that could help me make some tough decisions. I have been in a relationship for 1 and 1/2 years with my boyfriend. After dating for almost nine months we decided to live together-which in retrospect was a very bad decision. He has two cats that he got with his ex-fiance about 3 years ago. I am terribly allergic to cats and suffer from Lupus along with some other tough health problems. Before we moved in he decided to get 3 air purifiers and move the cats into a section of the house away from where I would be. But even with all this I still became terribly ill keeping a sinus infection and suffering from recurring flares of my lupus. At that point I asked him to find a way to either moved the cats to an area outside the house or find them a home nearby where he could still see them. He said that he couldn’t do it because he’s had them since they were little and what would he do if we broke up. We had/have been talking about getting married so I’m not quite sure why he thinks we could break up. He’s the one that mentioned marriage and before I met him I didn’t really think I would want to get married. I know all of his past relationships have ended badly including one where he didn’t eat anything for a month and lost 40 pounds. I moved into an apartment and got a 6 month lease with him telling me that he would work on a solution. I wanted a compromise where he could still have the cats and we could still be together because I love the cats too. I in no way have any ill feelings toward the cats or any animal for that matter. The end of this month is the last of my lease and he say’s that he still can’t do it that he hasn’t had enough time. I don’t want to move back in with him I’m perfectly fine in my apartment but I can’t even visit my boyfriends house. I asked him if he thought it was normal for me not to be able to come to his house and he said everyone’s relationship norm is different. Which is valid but how many people are in relationships where they never get to come to their spouse’s home? At this point I’m not sure what to do-do I break up with him even though my heart tells me to work it out. I’m confused, hurt and I have no clue what to do. This is my only relationship I’ve ever been in even though I’m 27. I love him more than words and can see the rest of my life with him. I would welcome any advice you might have on the matter. Thank You!