Confused about a Guy

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    relationshipa1
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    We are great friends, we have only known each other for a little over a month but we are very close. He started coming over to hang out with my roommate, her girlfriend and I, because they were friends in high school. But now it has become that just me and him have been hanging out all the time. With in the first week we met, we became comfortable with eachother, I am a shy person but I easily became close to him. He is a very friendly guy. When it is just me and him hanging out at night we usually end up wrestling or falling asleep leaning against one another. We went to a friends b-day party, the day before he asked me if “we” were going to the party, even though we are not “together”. He has told me some very personal things about his past that is not easy for a person to deal with, and I have told him some personal things. I dont want our friendship to become awkward if he does not have the same feelings for me as I do him if i tell him I like him. He has also told me that he has a hard time with being friends with his exgirlfriends which I would not want to have happen if it doesnt work out between us honestly i can see us together for a long time. My roommate and other female friends have told me that me and him should jsut start dating, but it is not that easy. Should I sat something to him, or should I wait for him to ask me out?

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    April Masini
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    Wait for him to ask you out. ALWAYS wait for him to ask you out. Men want to be the one who ask the woman out on a date. If you broach the subject or ask him out first, you take that opportunity to feel like a successful man who just asked a girl he likes out on a date, away from him. The relationship will work a lot more successfully if he feels like a man when he’s with you, so don’t do his job for him, even if you have to wait! Let him be the one to make the first move.

    This guy likes you, and since you end up wrestling and falling asleep against one another, there’s a sexual component that is latent, but will probably surface soon enough! And I trust he’s going to want to make you his girlfriend pretty soon, so don’t make it too easy for him! Give him something to go after while balancing that chase with some real rewards for his attentions like flirting, big smiles and affection.

    Don’t worry about feeling awkward if you have different feelings for each other at the same time — that’s part of all relationships! The joy comes from the times when you both like each other the same way at the same time. The excitement comes from liking someone a lot and wondering if they feel the same way. See if instead of wanting to avoid that feeling, you can just sit in it and let it be without reacting to it or feeling you have to do something about it.

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