after 1 yr relationship: stopped contact

We are an exclusive couple in our 40’s and have been together for one year. We have always gotten along well and there was never any bickering, etc. He was laid off 5 months ago and the first couple of months he remained up beat. After that he increasingly withdrew physically, but we would check in via text or a quick call most days. Things got to the point where he asked for “space” to handle all that he “had on his plate”. He said all he could think about was finding a job. I had some concerns about some possible depression, but he denied this. He had also stopped wanting to have sex. We had 3 weeks without seeing each other and about 2 months of no sex. The rejection was difficult for me to accept. So….. he found a job, in a city about 400 miles away and called me to get together and talk about how we would make the distance work (which he was confident would not be a problem). The romance was back and he was more like his old self. He started his new job and planned to come back to town in 3 weeks. A week before he was to come back to town we had a text conversation and he told me of all the things we would do together and how he couldn’t wait to see me. During this conversation I spoke of looking forward to coming to his city and seeing where he lived, worked, etc.(we had talked numerous times about my coming to see him where he now lives). The conversation took an abrupt change and he said I must be making something up in my head. The conversation didn’t last much longer because my attempts to explain why I was interested in seeing his new “world” ended with his telling me “that’s crazy”. I haven’t heard from him since and he also came back to the town I live in for a weekend and didn’t call me. This all took place in the last 2 weeks. What in the world!!!! I’m not going to pick up the phone and ask what happened. I am so shocked and hurt that he came back to town and didn’t call or see me, let alone the fact that he got so defensive when I expressed interest in seeing where he now lives. Obviously I don’t feel that I deserve to be treated that way. I would just like some opinions on what in the world I should make of the situation. It has blown me and my friends I have talked to about this completely away.