First of all, you need to try and get some perspective on this problem. You mentioned cheating and lying. If he’s cheating with other women, do you know[i] why[/i] he is? That would help to being able to solve that problem. Same with the lying. What is it, he’s lying about, and is it chronic? In other words, did he do this when you started dating or is this behavior something that happened as a result of an event?
It sounds to me like the sperm donation is the last straw for you. I’m not sure why your boyfriend decided to donate sperm — if it was for money, then that’s a problem to work on. If it was because he wants to do something for others, then that’s a challenge, too. If he’s doing it to make you angry, then that’s another challenge — the point is, you need to figure out why he’s doing what he’s doing if you want to make this work. And you can’t do it alone. You have to have communication with him. If he’s donating sperm through a reputable company with a contract he’s signed, then that’s a lot different than if he’s making personal deals with people which may leave you vulnerable to an extended family you weren’t counting on, down the line. So find out what’s REALLY at the root of the problem.
If he’s someone who is a chronic liar, then there’s nothing you can do to stop him — he’s going to have to want to stop, and it doesn’t sound like that’s the case. So get a clear picture on what’s happening and then make a decision — I’m here if you need help. And if you decide not to stay with him, then move out and get on with your life as a single mother.
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