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I’ve been dating this guy for 6 months, everything is going well. We have been taking things slow. I have strong feelings for him. I think he is really into me but he doesn’t show his emotions much. We rarely see each other or talk during the week. My parents recently did a background check on him and found out history of bad things he was involved with. What should I do? Should I ask him? Should I keep dating this guy even if he is in debt and had a bad history?

[Ask April Masini]

It would help to know how old you are, and how old he is.

Also, what kind of “bad things” did your parents find out in doing the background check? Is he divorced? Does he have children? All this would help to know.

Without knowing it, what I would suggest is asking your boyfriend about what you found out without letting him know how you found out. For instance, you can ask him broad questions about his background that would allow him, or give him the perfect opportunity to bring these past problems up. If he doesn’t, you can ask him specifically, if he has debt and how much.

At the end of the day you have to protect yourself and also be realistic. Some people have debt and that doesn’t mean that they’re bad boyfriends or potential husbands. So if you can be more specific, I can help you more clearly. 🙂

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