I have been dating a man for three years now. We in a way had that high school love story, but are in out twenties now. Things were good between us for about a year and half. Then things got rough and we were distant, but still managed to stay together. Fast forward to now. We had finally started to work things out, we were talking about our future together again and there seemed to be a light at the end of the tunnel. The his mother died, she and I were very close and of course he was devastated by the loss. I didn’t know how to handle him. I had lost my mom six months prior but the situation was completely different, so I just treated him the way I wished he would have treated me when I lost my mom. Evidently that wasn’t right. We had slowly began to put the pieces back together with one another when the date from hell occurred last Saturday. Things started out rough and just went down hill from there. We were driving him from the movies and he made a comment about some girls and for some reason it really set me off. I told him out I felt and he just got really mad and started to yell at me about how I was so insecure and so on. I stopped talking and continued to drive. I then tried to apologies and he said we were over. I was really hurt and confused so I tried to ask him why or tried to get him to talk to me, and I said somethings that were really low. He wouldn’t, so when we got back to my house and he tried to leave, I tried to stop him even though he told me not to and that he was really upset at me. Being who I am I just wasn’t read to see him go, so I tried harder to get him to stay. Even though I knew he was mad and I knew how he reacts when he gets this angry I still tried to stop him. He ended up choking me. He stopped after I tried out, and I ran inside, where my father was, and told my dad everything. I was just really shocked and upset. We have had our fair share of fights, but nothing like this. Now my dad wants me to call the police and says he will disown me if I marry him or if we move in, and so on. I completely understand why my father is acting this way. I really do, but in my heart I know that my boyfriend would not do this again. He told me is is going to get help, and that he is sorry, and I know that they always say that so you wont get them in trouble. In my gut though I believe that he is telling the truth, he told me that if I felt that I had to call the police that I should, he would understand. I guess what it comes down to is that I love this man more than anything in the world, and I am just not ready to lose someone else. I worked so hard to save our relationship and in the process I just condemned it. What should I do?
