[bthom1977]

I have a girl that I work with (although she works in a different building) that I’ve always had kind of a crush on for a few years. We’ve always been friendly to each other and I now I’ve been divorced from my x-wife for almost a year and a half so I decided to step it up a notch. I normally would just talk to her over messenger while at work so one night I just gave her my number and said if she wanted to bug me over the weekend to text/call. So she gave me hers and we started talking constantly, we both crack each other up and seem to have great chemistry. She came over to my place a few times but now only talks to me via text messaging or online at work. She backs off when I ask her to hangout now, or if I say I want to take her out to dinner or something. But she’ll text and ask me how my day is or how I’m doing all the time… even if I don’t initiate any conversation during the day she will.

So it’s driving me nuts every time I mention “hey come hang out, have some drinks with me” or “let me take you out” and she says she can’t, or doesn’t think it’s a good idea. She did say once that she wants to be friends, but that I make her smile a lot and that’s a good thing.

How should I approach this. I’ve tried to not talk to her, but she’ll eventually contact me and ask me how I’m doing and I love talking to her so I give in (although it drives me crazy because I want to see her). Should I ignore her for a while and just give up?

[Ask April Masini]

The problem is you’re too available. 😮 Nice guys finish last, and you need to make yourself a more valuable commodity so that she wants you and can’t quite get you — until you DO ask her out and she’ll jump at the opportunity to be in your company. 😎

There is enough positive behavior on her part to make it clear she likes you, but you need to step up your game. I suggest you get Date Our of Your League, a book I’ve written for men who want to get the girl — and it’s a perfect quick read for someone just out of a divorce like yourself! The dating world requires game, and you should give yourself the advantage. Here’s the link for the book: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

Let me know, after you read it, if the book helps and how. I hope this helps!! Please join me on Facebook — I’d love to have you as a member of AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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