[yuvrajsen]

Me an my friend(girl)were very close, she was loving me a lot,but though i dint accept her i was loving her it was her wish tat i should be with her always like her bf tat to except any other girl, everything i did for her which bf should do, we were like this for 3 years but last year, she stopped loving me because i dint accept her an said lets be friends, but for 3 years i was close wit her because of tat i felt in love with her, i realized when she left me,i told like this to her, i said her to come back m sorry i really love you an accepting u, but she dint listen an said i hurt her an all.. 😯 after tat many times i tried to convince her but she dint listen an day by day went away from me everything i tried to get her back but she dint, den i thought to get her back by being her friend again, before 3 months only i told her tat but from 4 months she is not talking wit me nicely every time m only msging her first dail whenever i text her she is talking very less or giving excuses ansaying bye if i dint msg she is not texting till i msg her first, guys i know she is angry on me thats y doing like this but as she wanted i got ready to behave as friend she is not talking me properly what i shold do tat she will talk nicely like b4 den i can be her bf again plz give me correct solution she is being rude should i dont msg her till she dont text me first?? plz help me out, i need her want her to come back wat excatly i should do now, i feel still she loves me but m not getting how to get her back

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

What about her didn’t you accept?

Let me know, and I’ll give you my advice! 🙂

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[yuvrajsen]

hello, thanks for the reply,
M 20 years old an she is 19, i dint accept her because i dint had feelings for her,i was not feeling to be near her or love her tat time. she is not so beautiful an fat also, but it was not my reason, I always wanted to be her as her best friend many times i told her nicely but she dint listen me,always forced me to love her an did all that to make her happy an my feelings got changed 😥 .. Mrs april if u need more info then plz ask ill give, waiting for reply 🙄

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want to win her back, then you have to dial up your game — in other words, you have to woo her with gifts, flowers, ask her out on dates, and convince her that you’re not only sorry for the past, but that you want her more than ever. This can’t just be words — it has to be actions.

On the other hand, you have to focus on your own life and not appear needy so that you’re attractive to her. Women like men who are appealing to other women. They don’t want a man that no other woman wants. So while you’re trying to win her over, you also have to move on with your life.

I know this is a lot for you to take on, but you should try it if you want to win her back. 😉

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[yuvrajsen]

ok k but i did all that but after that she went further away frome me, and from 2 months m only texting her first, an if i ask to go out or for meet then she is giving excuses, since 2 months m telling her to meet but every time giving any reason and avoiding now i dint text her since 1 week she dint text me also, what i should do for that, this month we have exams , i have decide to msg her after this month till ill wait she could msg or should i msg her, because if i msg her she is not talking nicely being rude an telling busy an all.reply what i should do

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like it’s time to move on. 😳 Sometimes rejection is a gift you need to accept because it lets you know where NOT to expend your energy. If someone isn’t interested in dating you and you can’t win her back, then find someone who [i]wil[/i]l date you and who’s interested in you and likes you! 😀

I know it’s disappointing to be rejected, but if you can learn from what happened that led to the rejection, and use that lesson in your future dating experiences, then you’ll have a lot more success because of this rejection. 😉

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[yuvrajsen]

ok i agree for that, from two weeks we dint talk to each other aft this month m thinking to cal her and meet is that ok? an one more question i dint become her bf then its ok but at least i want to be her best friend again what i should do for that?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is to move on, altogether. 😉 I don’t think you should call her again, and you should [i]definitely[/i] not try to be her best friend, putting yourself in the dreaded friend zone! The reason I’m advising this is because as long as you have feelings for her, you’re not going to be see yourself as single, and you won’t move on easily. If you really feel single and that she’s part of your past, you [i]can [/i]move on. 🙂 Think about it. Not only will you want to meet someone new if you’re really single, but you’ll be a lot more attractive to other women if you’re not best friends with an ex-girlfriend or even in touch with an ex-girlfriend — especially one you wanted back and couldn’t get. 😕 In addition, it’s impossible for men and women to be friends. The reason is that one person always has feelings for the other — and you’re a perfect example of that. Because of those feelings, you can’t be honest with her. For instance, a real friend will want her to be happy dating other guys — but you won’t. You’ll want her to be with you. This means you’re going to be dishonest with her, and that’s not friendship. 😉

I hope that helps!

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[yuvrajsen]

ok ya its right but i feel she will change later once she had told in middle that still she see me in form of love, i feel she has ego that i dint accept her that time when i wanted to be only best friends, because there is no any major reason tat she dont want to come back reply on this

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know if you have a question, and I’m happy to answer it for you! 🙂

[yuvrajsen]

oh thank you, i feel still she loves me, m thinking to meet her in next month and restart the friendship, if she dint come back then its ok but wanted to do be her best friend again, till then i wont talk to her i mean 1 month, m i doing right??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Here’s the advice I gave you last time — maybe if you re-read it, it will sink in. You can also re-read the advice I’ve given you on the entire string of these posts, which I think will help you. I think you don’t want to let go and move on, so you’re trying to get me to agree to different tactics that will facilitate you still being in her life. 😕 I think that if you try that, you’ll end up back here in a few months with the same questions you’re asking now. 😳 But…. everyone has to find the answers to their questions in their own time. I think that my advice will save you that time you need to figure this out, but again, you’re on your own time clock.

Here’s the advice again:

[quote]My advice is to move on, altogether. I don’t think you should call her again, and you should definitely not try to be her best friend, putting yourself in the dreaded friend zone! The reason I’m advising this is because as long as you have feelings for her, you’re not going to be see yourself as single, and you won’t move on easily. If you really feel single and that she’s part of your past, you can move on. Think about it. Not only will you want to meet someone new if you’re really single, but you’ll be a lot more attractive to other women if you’re not best friends with an ex-girlfriend or even in touch with an ex-girlfriend — especially one you wanted back and couldn’t get. In addition, it’s impossible for men and women to be friends. The reason is that one person always has feelings for the other — and you’re a perfect example of that. Because of those feelings, you can’t be honest with her. For instance, a real friend will want her to be happy dating other guys — but you won’t. You’ll want her to be with you. This means you’re going to be dishonest with her, and that’s not friendship. [/quote]

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[yuvrajsen]

ok i told what happened before i dint msg her first then she only msged me asked bout exams an wished to do well in exams then dint text even i replied tat much, what i should do now i want to be her best friend again that we could talk daily like before??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can’t. 😳 I’m sorry. If you read through the advice I gave you, you’ll refresh yourself on what I think you should do. Time to move on and find someone else to date. 😉

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[yuvrajsen]

ok everything i told you what happened,now condition is like this that she want to be my friend forever, because when i told her if you dont want come back to me then leave me, she started crying an said she need me, what does that mean, she not talking more with me an she need me also what i must do in this situation??

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