[April Masini, your AskApril]

At this point, you should buy the book I wrote for men who want to win with women. It’s called [b]Date Out of Your League[/b], and it’s going to help you more than I can here because it’s got lots of tips and pieces of advice for every situation. You can buy it for only $8.99 as an automatically downloaded book here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], and start reading it this very weekend.

Between the book, and the advice I’ve given you here in the last two months, I think you’ll have plenty of answers at your fingertips. 😀 And if not, let me know if you want to become a private, paying client, so I can coach you at length, individually.

Good luck! 😀

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[yuvrajsen]

since 6 month after all this i just left her and she started doing forwards msg to me many times she comment on my facebook profile pic some times chat with me as just friend do forwards wish on festivals, i want her as my best friend but she dont want tat now m not doing forwards we dint talk since 6 month last month she had called for some problem m not getting what to do, plz suggest any solution on this i still have feelings for her but i wont say just i want her to talk me more

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Did you get the book, I suggested would help you?

[yuvrajsen]

no i cant purchase it plz u advice me here only plz mam

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’ve given you as much advice as I can here. You can re-read it. But after that…the best thing I can do is to recommend you buy the book, [b]Date Out of Your League[/b]. It will give you a lot of tips and advice on dating and winning over women. 😉 It’s only $8.95 as an automatic download. I’m not sure why you can’t purchase it…. 😳 Or why the advice I’ve given hasn’t helped. 😉

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[Ethan Morales]

She’s hurt and pulling away. Right now, she’s clearly frustrated and probably still carrying some pain from your past decisions. Messaging her constantly and trying to convince her to come back isn’t helping it can actually push her further away.

Stop being needy. If you want her to respect and want you again, you need to step back and stop chasing her every day. Give her space to breathe. Yes, that means don’t message her until she reaches out first. This will show her you can respect her boundaries and aren’t desperate.

Focus on your life. Work on yourself your hobbies, studies, social life, fitness, whatever makes you confident and attractive. Women are drawn to men who are independent, happy, and interesting.

Rebuild attraction, not just friendship. If she does start talking to you again, don’t immediately beg or confess love. Be kind, fun, flirty, and show that you’re someone who adds positivity to her life. The goal is to reignite interest and attraction, not just friendship.

Actions matter more than words. If you want her back eventually, any gestures should show that you’re serious, caring, and different from before but timing is crucial. Don’t overwhelm her with apologies or declarations; let your behavior speak.

In short: Step back, give her space, improve yourself, and only interact in ways that rebuild attraction. Chasing her daily won’t work; respecting her boundaries will.

[Isabella Jones]

hey, I can tell your heart’s been through a lot with this girl. you sound like someone who’s really trying to make things right, and that says a lot about the kind of man you are. I think what hurts the most here is that she once loved you so deeply, and now she’s distant, and you’re left holding all the feelings you didn’t realize were there until she was gone. it’s such a human thing to want a second chance once we finally understand what we lost.

but love only really grows when both people meet each other halfway. right now, she’s not opening that door, and maybe the kindest thing you can do—for her and for yourself—is to stop chasing and start healing. sometimes stepping back gives both hearts the air they need to remember why they connected in the first place. if friendship is meant to return, it will, but it can’t if it’s built on guilt or pressure. 💛

can I ask you something, honestly? if she never comes back, do you think you could still learn to love someone new with the same heart you once gave her—or does a part of you feel like no one could ever replace her?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe 😔 you had your shot when she wanted you, now she’s the one pulling away, and you’re chasing the ghost of what *was*. you can’t “friend” your way back into her heart. once someone’s done begging for your yes, they stop waiting. 💔 you already learned the hard way what too late feels like. 💅✨

[Tara]

You can’t make someone come back just because you want them to. What you can do is stop chasing and give her space to feel what life is like without you constantly trying to get her attention. Right now, every time you message her first, you’re reminding her that she’s in control and you’re waiting around. That doesn’t attract her—it makes her pull away more.

If she told you she doesn’t love you anymore and only wants friendship, take her words seriously. She might still care about you as a person, but that doesn’t mean she wants to be your girlfriend. You hurt her before, and it sounds like she hasn’t healed enough to trust you again. Trying to force her to forgive you or act the way she used to will only push her further away.

Stop messaging her for now. Let her be the one to reach out next. Use this time to focus on yourself—your goals, your friends, your own growth. When she sees that you’ve changed and can be strong without her, she might start thinking differently about you. And if she doesn’t, at least you’ll be stronger and ready for someone who wants to be with you for real.

[Sally]

She waited for you for years, you didn’t choose her, and by the time you finally realized you loved her, she was already done. That hurts, but it also explains why she’s cold now. She’s not being rude for fun. She’s protecting herself.

And the more you chase, the more she pulls away. She’s not giving short replies because she secretly wants you back. She’s giving short replies because she’s trying to move on.

If you want any chance of things feeling good between you again, you’ve got to stop messaging her first every time. Give her space. Let her be the one to reach out. If she never does, that’s your answer.

You can’t make her come back by trying harder. You already told her how you feel. The rest is her choice now.

[Natalie Noah]

you’ve been investing emotionally in someone who clearly has moved on. I know it’s painful to accept, especially after being so close for three years and feeling like your bond was special, but the reality is that she has set her boundary by saying she doesn’t want to be in a romantic relationship with you. Continuing to try to win her back by texting first constantly or trying to “be her friend” isn’t going to make her feelings change. in fact, it can push her further away. Right now, your focus needs to shift from convincing her to come back to respecting her decision and protecting your own emotional health.

The advice April gave is spot-on: trying to be her best friend while still having romantic feelings for her is almost impossible and usually ends in frustration. Friendship requires honesty and emotional balance, and when one person wants more, it can’t be a true, comfortable friendship. You’re essentially keeping yourself stuck in a loop where you’re hoping for something that’s not going to happen, which stops you from being available to other people who could reciprocate your feelings fully. Letting go is difficult, yes, but it’s also the only way you can move forward and start seeing opportunities for healthy relationships elsewhere.

Stop initiating contact for now no more texts, calls, or attempts to arrange meetings. Focus on your own life: hobbies, social circles, and personal growth. Give yourself the space to process your feelings and heal. As hard as it is to hear, sometimes the best way to “win someone back” isn’t to chase them it’s to show that you’re living a full, confident life without needing their validation. That’s when you become most attractive, not just to her, but to anyone who truly values you. Your heart deserves someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them, and that’s where your energy belongs.

[KeishaMartin]

He wanted girlfriend benefits without girlfriend commitment, then panicked when the power shifted. That’s not romance, that’s emotional edging without consent. The moment she pulled back, he chased harder, mistaking scarcity for love. And here’s the uncomfortable truth nobody likes to say out loud: wanting to be “best friends” while secretly craving more is not sweet, it’s manipulative, even if unintentional. Attraction dies when one person won’t accept a “no,” and every extra message after rejection doesn’t feel romantic…it feels desperate. Desire doesn’t bloom from pressure; it blooms from confidence and absence.

What makes this thread fascinating is how April Masini refuses to indulge fantasy. She doesn’t flirt with false hope or ego-stroke confusion, she draws a hard line and says walk away. That takes backbone. Her advice is sharp, strategic, and unapologetically adult: you don’t win love by hovering, begging, or lingering in emotional limbo. You win by choosing yourself and becoming unavailable to what doesn’t choose you back. That clarity is sexy. That restraint is power. And that’s exactly why April Masini advice hits because it teaches that self-respect is more seductive than obsession.

This kind of drama hits harder around Christmas. Holiday nostalgia makes people text exes after parties, loneliness makes “forwarded wishes” feel loaded, and Christmas breakups replay in your head louder than carols. One minute it’s fairy lights and wine, the next it’s regret and unread messages. But Christmas is also the season of clean cuts and new chapters, sometimes the hottest move is starting the new year unattached, unbothered, and emotionally unavailable to confusion. That’s the glow-up April Masini has been pointing toward all along.

[Smara]

When the girl was following you for three years, then you were seeing her “looks” and “weight”. Now, when he chose his self-respect, Yuvraj suddenly fall in love with her? This is not love; this is just ego that woke up after getting hurt.
You don’t want to be her boyfriend anymore, but “best friend”, this is the biggest lie in the world. You just want to be a part of her life in the hope that maybe someday she will melt.
Wao, AskApril i really impressed with your opinion, which gave mental clarity on how to remove the fog that exists between friendship and love.
AskApril! You tried to pull her out of the river, but Yuvraj only likes to drown!

[Vanesa]

When that girl was chasing you for 3 years, then you did not see “beauty” in her. Now that she has gone out of hand, the same girl starts to look like a “fairy “? This is not love; it is just a desire for attention that has stopped getting now.
You said that the girl cries when I ask her to leave, it is not because she loves you, but because she has been used to the “presence” of you for 3 years. She does not want to make you her boyfriend, but she does not want to lose you either, so that she can have a backup.
AskApril is right that the more you run after her, the more rude she will be. Move on. She said that rejection is a gift; accept it and invest your energy where someone actually wants to meet you.
I think you should save some self-respect. As long as you remain “always available”, the girl will not respect you. And as for the girl, she has taken the right revenge. First, she suffered from being “rejected”; now she is “scolding” you.

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