I have been dating this girl for just 5 months. I love this girl. However, the jealousy monster is alive and well with me. Her best friend is a man. She told me from the beginning that they never had a relationship in any way. She is also very close to an ex-boyfriend with whom she had a relationship of 4 years that ended quite some time ago, maybe 10 years. She is also very close to other single men. Here is what happened in the months since we met…
The actual truth has been trickled out to me. She did have a relationship with her best friend – the exact details of the level of intimacy I still do not know and she is not very open with details. She had spent several evenings out with her ex of 4 years – including tonight as I write this. The first few meetings they had I didn’t find out about until well after they had occurred. Then I find out that when she speaks to her best friend, who is married, he always has to take the call outside because his wife might be OK with the conversations. She speaks to her best friend, her ex and others multiple times a week via phone, text or other method. And she even tags her ex on facebook multiple times a month. Another example that got the best of me was that she went out of town to meet one of her male friends to attend a concert. He lives in the town she went to. She tells me she has never had a relationship with him in any way. I asked her point blank if she was staying in the room alone and she said she was. I found out later that they stayed in the same hotel room for two nights.
