[April Masini, your AskApril]

If they just broke up, why not wait a few months to see if he’s really interested in you, or just looking for a rebound. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I do!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. Don’t let social media distract you from the real issues in the relationship. Focus on those when you decide whether or not to get back together — not social media. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry you’re upset. It sounds like this is a guy you met online, but never dated in real life. Am I right? If so, don’t invest so much energy in someone who doesn’t ask you out. If he’s not interested in conversing with you, and he doesn’t ask you out, move on and find someone new. 😉 If you keep trying to get a guy who’s not interested to become interested, and it isn’t working, you’re just going to feel badly. 😳 Play the field. 😎

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He may have a cruel streak where he wants you to feel badly about the way things worked out. Or he may not be trying to make you feel jealous at all. Either way, you’ll be a lot happier if you shift your focus elsewhere. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask her out — in person, if possible — and if you don’t get a response, move on to someone else.

For two months you’ve been posting on this forum trying to figure out how to ask her out. When you end up spending this much energy on simply asking someone on a date, there’s something wrong, and you should just move on to a situation that’s easier.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask her out on a date.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. Thanks for clarifying.

It seems pretty clear what you have to do to try and get her back — which is the opposite of what you did to help her break up with you. 😕 You need to be the guy she wants. She’s looking for someone who’s invested in life and respectful of her and fun and higher energy and upbeat. Start getting up early, doing nice things for her, getting involved in life — that’s what she was looking for and what she didn’t get. If you can’t do that or don’t want to — then accept the incompatibility. If you want her back, get moving! 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I would love to respond, but first…. please re-post this as a “reply” to the string of posts you’ve already begun on this page here: . I’ll look out for your repost and answer you there. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure why you’re confused — he’s being very clear with you. 😕

You invited him to a dance and he went, but after that, he’s rebuffed all your offers. He doesn’t initiate conversation and he has taken a girlfriend. He doesn’t like you. But someone else will. 😉 If you stop spending your time and energy on this guy who’s dating someone, you’ll be able to be single, flirtatious and open to other guys who do like you and who do want to date you!

Shift your energy. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Nope. An open relationship isn’t right for you. You’re going to get hurt — more than you are already, and he’ll be with other women so you’ll be relegated to one of a stable of women who will sleep with him. He’s already got one foot out the door. He’s not treating you like a girlfriend who is valued. He’s treating you like someone he can cheat on. I know that after three and a half years of dating it’s hard to break up, but the two of you do not have the same values even though you say you do. I completely understand how tough this is for you, but his behavior isn’t going to get better. There’s a pattern being established here, and it’s just a matter of time before you recognize it for what it is. 🙁

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