[Anonymous]

I know for a fact it was an abusive relationship cause i saw the actual abuse and the after effects (black eyes, etc…) hence the reason i stepped in to help i cannot stand a man hitting a woman in any circumstance other than life or death

[Anonymous]

April:
There have been many issues and I have broken up with him several times. He had issues with flirty text messages with other women. I know for sure he took one out for dinner. I asked him to stop and he did for awhile but then I found him texting his tax lady continuously again in a flirty manner. The texts messages indicated they met up a few times but he denied it. He claims he never cheated and that he’s a good man. When I found out about the new daughter that’s 17, I just can’t deal with the lies and deceit anymore. I feel like there’s a cycle here. I have caught him in some little lies here and there too.

[Anonymous]

It’s funny as at the start of the relationship we were both hurt from the past (her more than me as her ex used to beat her black and blue) she had just got help out of that relationship with the help of yours truly. But i digress we promised each other right at the begining “NO SECRETS, NO LIES” and so i lived happily all this time safe in the knowledge that i could tell her anything good and bad and it would help us grow stronger. After being with her for so long i will have to show her the evidence as i cannot just up and leave without justification. I also need to do this so that she cannot lie to our friends and put me in a bad light. I now have her rent money all i’m waiting for is her period to show i’m in the clear. (i know i should always use protection, and if there is a pregnancy involved then i will love that child, if its mine, more than anything on this earth)

[Anonymous]

Hi, topic poster here. Thanks for all the advice but i will have to show her the evidence whether it seems dramatic or not as she will need a good reason for the split. What with trying to get her son back. I have so far paid no legal fee’s and nor do i plan to her new man can do that although i found out a few minutes ago that he is asking out practically every girl he see’s on a night out (i can’t say i didn’t laugh at the thought of her reaction when she finds that one out in the due course of time)

[Anonymous]

we’re both 22 .. no children for either of us..im in university and hes got a really good full time job, quite stable ive known him for 4 months and have dated for almost 2 months… 🙂

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are right. It would really hurt me if he goes back with her. I’m just such a horrible communicator. I always have a problem expressing my true feelings, my anger or disapproval especially. Not only with him, but even with my friends, but not with my family. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and what I do instead is keep quiet and ignore them until my anger passes away. And i have had a lot of friends walk all over me because they think no matter what they do or say, i will not mind. That’s wrong because nothing gets resolved, and instead it makes me frustrated. But I am working at it and my bf has been very supportive.

I’ve told him loud and clear that it will not make me happy if they become close friends again and he knows I mean business. But he has been good so far, he even offered to block her phone #, but c’mon there are so many ways in which she can contact him. She constantly asks his friends (whom as i mentioned she is friends with as well) what he is up to, tells them stuff about herself so that they can casually mention it to him to annoy him. She is the one that starts up a conversation with him first, so at least I know that he will not talk w her unless she starts up something. I just don’t understand how immature must she be to be chasing him for a year?? And she is even older than me…”sighs”. I guess age really is just a number.

Although this will sound like an excuse, I really do not think he would be unfaithful to me with other girls just because i accidentally saw some conversations that he had been having with some girl friends on his fb, and i never ask to see his fb so he wouldn’t even think to have to delete his messages. But he actually told each one of them about me..and how happy he is with me and that he thinks i’m the one etc. And that reassured me that he is a good guy and he does care for me. I just definitely need to communicate more with him about what has been bothering me…and see where he stands.

That said, I will definitely take your advice to heart and stop to think about what works best for me at the end of the day. I’m still young, and if he and I are not meant to be, then Mr. Right is still out there waiting for me 🙂 Never give up hope!!

In the meantime, I think I will take things slowly and enjoy life ~ 🙂

xoxo

[Anonymous]

i have been dating my boyfriend for three years now and the issue with us is that he is older than i am. i’m 19 and he’s 29 so it was a big deal at the beginning for us to date but after a while everyone noticed he was a great guy and i love him to death. my family has nothing against our relationship because he’s a very good guy but there is one problem. he feels that he’s more experienced and every time we argue he has the last word saying how immature i am because he never wants to hear what i have to say. every argument isnt just an argument its a break up where i dont know about him for weeks and sometimes maybe a month. i try to talk things out and see whats bothering us but he just ignores me completely and wont answer any calls or text messages. i choose to just let him come back on his own but i love him so much and we are in a place in our relationship where i dont want any arguments or more break ups. my family is the kind to mind their business but when they see how much he leaves me and i’m left crying and in depression they get angry because they know the love i have for him and he shows that he doesnt really care whether it ends or not since he’s always leaving me. he told me to tell my dad and everyone that it was really over because he wouldnt be coming over to visit my house anymore. i’m a very family oriented person and i told my family that we were over to avoid them asking where he was. turns out he wanted to speak to my dad to end things right by saying that we just didnt work out and blah blah blah and my dad agreed but on the phone my dad was very honest and told him that he was upset about the relationship and how he felt that i didnt deserve someone who leaves me for any reason and its always on and off. after a long time with no contact we finally had a talk and saw each other again we were ok for a couple of weeks but i decided to confront him because he wouldnt come over to my house anymore and i would have to go see him. i told him it bothered me that now it would have to be that way and that my dad just wants the best for me and it bothered him but he said he will not ever come back to my home again. i missed him so much i would go over to see him every weekend but i couldnt take it anymore how he wouldnt show effort to come see me and just maybe prove me and my family wrong if he really loves me so i gave him the ultimatum! in order for him to see me agian he would have to come to my home and see me and set things straight because after all if we do want this to work they will always be my family. so now im worried did i do the right thing or is it just worst? he will probably not contact me again for long but im a little confused if what i said was right

[Anonymous]

April you are absolutely right, its funny you said that because my mother said the same thing! Yesterday i did get a text from her though that said she was really sorry that she didn’t answer and the reason she didn’t was cuz he ex bf was going through her phone and flipped out and that she was really sorry. I am a little upset that she is hanging out with her ex bf and I don’t know how to go about this situation. I know old habit’s are hard to break and her ex bf is really controlling and doesn’t seem to respect her boundaries but she his letting him do it. How does some one move on with some one else when they cant break there old habits?? How do I go about this situation? I haven’t answered her or anything which i thought was the best idea till I know what is best to do.

[Anonymous]

I was in the same situation with my ex I lived with him because I didn’t have
Anywhere else to go so I figure it would work out but I was miserable untill one day
I made that change I wasn’t happy I never loved him I cared for him but love wasn’t
In my heart, so do the right thing before its to late I now have a wonderful boyfriend
And I’m very much in love with him he means the world to me so don’t wait to the last
Moment to know he ant the one remember life is short so make the right choice
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I think u should start talking to her again as a friend I always believe in 2nd chances
So if she really loves u or cares about u give her time to come around but make sure
U speak as friends a let her know how much u miss her and care for her good luck.

[Anonymous]

Thank you so much for your reply. It builds my confidence knowing you feel I’m on the right track. I appreciate your advice and take it seriously. FYI, he called again Saturday night to see how I have been and he asked me over, but by his tone he knew that I wasn’t going to do it. He hasn’t given up, but I’m not backing down either. He makes the adjustments or forget it. I deserve better and I’m going to get it! Thank you again.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me the mother is trying to hook up you and the daughter regardless I think the daughter likes you. Get in good with the mother and ask the daughter on a date.

[Anonymous]

Ok, will do!! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I am so confused.While I studied 12th.Because my examination very bad. I comes result withing few day.During this time I am very confused.

[Anonymous]

I have that best friend.About 10 year together.I love him and sometimes its more than just friendly love.I really think I love him a lot of.

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