[Anonymous]

thank you so much…now things gets clearer..thank you so much..you dont know how much i appreciate your help and words are not enough to show my apprecation..you will always be included in my prayers and I’ll keep you posted…

lots of hugssss for you Miss April

[Anonymous]

hello Miss April…there’s one more thing I need to know in order for me to fix my life…I tried to talk to my boyfriend regarding the support for my baby…he told me that he’s going to give financial support only if we we’re going to divide equally the number of days per month—like 15days my baby will be on his dad and 15days with me….but I dont want it that way because I know he can’t take care my baby as much as I care…can you please tell me some important/major things that I can ask my boyfriend for support???

[Anonymous]

The only thing he says on the topic is that he wants to be with me and thinks that things might somehow work out for us in the end. Since my moving to be near him is the only scenario I can think of, I’m assuming that he’s either expecting me to do that or he’s avoiding the conversation that would lead to our break up when he enters the PhD program in a few months to keep me around until then. Maybe I’m not thinking about it the right way but he’s not trying to have a serious talk about our situation and I feel like that is an important thing to do rather than just hope it all works out when it’s time for him to move.

Either way, you seem to agree with my fears that he’s just not that into this relationship. In fact, just tonight he asked me if I would be okay with him and the “other girl” who caused our break up (they work in the same lab) to take a long road trip together to visit a graduate school that they’re both interested in attending. I was shocked and hurt that he thinks that would be appropriate.

Anyway, guess it’s time for me to face reality. Thanks for your opinion, April. You have great insight on these things.

[Anonymous]

thank you!.that helped a lot..cause i though he won’t pay attention in that post..Because I’m not really serious type when it comes to guys..Just having dun of dating..

[Anonymous]

You can’t lie and you can’t withhold information for too long or they will move on. You may be ashamed of the reason you’ve never been on a date, had a boyfriend, etc… but those are your own insecurities. Someone else may love every part of you and be very thankful and happy to have met you and have a relationship with you. There is someone for everyone, we just have to find them. Believe me when I say though, it’s not always a easy search. You may have your heart broken, torn, ripped out 10 times before meeting someone that you really connect with and understands you. Very few people find their true love the first relationship they have.

[Anonymous]

I suggest one of two ways, depending on his personality and what you think he’ll respond better to:

1. The direct approach. Let him know that you’d like him to take the lead and that you like that in a man. You can say in a serious tone, but for the first time I’d say it in a lighthearted way.

2. (Obviously) The indirect approach. Before your date, tell him on the phone you really like surprises and you really want him to surprise you. Make it a fun, playful thing to help him get over his nervousness.

BTW, his nervousness does confirm he likes you and seeks your approval. You can help him by sending reassuring messages (verbal and non-verbal) you like him too.

Hope this helps! Let me know how it goes.

[Anonymous]

While I’m reading your response I was crying…I realized I don’t deserve this pain…Thank you for enlightenment! There are so many things in life to be on focus than having someone like my boyfriend…well’ Miss April I’m really glad I found your site. Keep helping! God Bless…I’ll keep you updated…mwaaahhh!!!

[Anonymous]

Thank you very much for the quick response…I really appreciated that.

I also think about of doing that. As a matter of fact I tried to separate him and it last for almost 2 months. Unfortunately he’s not contacting us on that span of time and not even give a damn call to talk to our baby. I cried every time my baby is asking where’s his dad and it really breaks me so I decided to go back to the house and talk to my boyfriend. We decided to work things out but for him having a guy friend which he thought something happened to me and this guy really ruins every minute of our days. He keeps throwing hurtful words to me and I swallowed it everyday for my baby sake. But of course I’m not a machine when I can’t resist the pain I tend to fight back. And just last night, he drag me outside the door and still I’m here. Maybe I’m stupid…maybe I’m crazy..but I will do this for my baby sake. I don’t have work right now and that is one thing that bothered me if I walk away from this house I don’t have the money to support my baby.

anyway Miss April, I’m turning 25 this March…my baby is already 3yrs old…my boyfriend and I were been together for almost 5yrs.

Thank you for having time reading this!!! 😎

[Anonymous]

i understand about putting the kids first and also the laywer meeting which i have not got a problem with as long as we go together we got married to share our lives together and support each other, which i support both him and his kids. If we went on our honeymoon straight after the visit to the kids then we would not have enough money to pay rent and other loans while we were away so that is why we have to worry about not doing everything at once. We sent birthday cards and presents to the kids last month, but my birthday just before their’s i didn’t get a card or an aknowlgement. i am feeling ripped off in many ways, maybe this is what hapens when you have kids. i don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Oh, thank you so much, that helps alot. I really just needed the opinion of someone else.
🙂 thank you!!

[Anonymous]

Thank you April,
I do feel so much better.
I was feeling really down yesterday but my horomones are everywhere at present.

Thank you again for your kind words.

x

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Thank you so much, and i am going to put a stop to any romantic feelings for him. The only problem is im seeing him in a few weeks and because i’ve never had any experience with these things, i don’t know what i should do. Should i act normal? Should i ignore him? The thing is other then the flirting, he wants me to go out with him to places, and im worried because his so old and that he drinks and smokes and does some wild things. I don’t want to even talk to him now, but what must i do about him now?

[Anonymous]

I have tried a lot of things. We have a bath together, I massage her, she massages me. She really enjoys sex after we do things like this, but it takes a lot of set up time and she is not always willing to take the time. Once we get into it she really likes it, but it is getting to that point that is the problem. She says she has so many things to think about during the day and after the kids get home that she doest have time to even think about sex, so when we do have sex it takes her a while to get into it. The times she doesnt want to have sex, but then we do end up having sex, almost as a ‘ok, I will do it to make you happy’ sort of thing, she says that it does feel really good and doesnt know why she didnt feel like it. She has said that she likes sex but I think I just want it way more than she does and I find myself pursuing her often to very often. I can see how from a woman’s prespective it can get tiresome always having someone hounding you for sex. I have tried to change the way I approach her, I do many things around the house when I get home from work to make things easier and less busy for her so that she may have more time to think about sex. That doesnt work either, maybe it does a bit, maybe she gives in more often thinking that she owes it to me or something. I dont want her to have sex with me because I did a bit of work around the house. I want her to have sex with me because she is turned on. Every time we do have sex she has an orgasm so I know she enjoys it, there has been maybe a handful of times that she hasn’s orgasmed and it is when we are having quick sex in the shower or before we go out for dinner etc., and she is doing it just for me.
The issue of me going down on her and her not liking it. I have made her orgasm before just by going down on her but the issue is she gets impatient and just wants me to get inside her as fast as possible. I am bigger than average and maybe she can get into it faster with penetration rather than oral stimulation. So I like the slow foreplay and she likes to just get at it. I theknow, kind of the reverse of what we hear about guys and gals, but I really like the build up and like to drag sex out and she wants to reach orgasm quite quickly. I have the best orgasms when it takes longer to get to the point where we are both going to go at the same time. I am at a loss and I really want to turn her on before the sex starts to get her in the mood more often.

[Anonymous]

In many cases I know, those who put their focus on studies instead of “going study” are likely to become blindsighted by the first person that knock them off their feet later on down the road. In my opinion, don’t play all your cards when you first sit at the table…Get to know the players first. Know what you are looking for in that significant other and stick to those…If she’s already in a relationship with another but randomly calls or text you then most likely she’s probably upset or unhappy with the other guy…In the past, when my boyfriend would go out with his friends and I wanted to take my mind off calling him I would call another friend. Or when I was upset with him and our relationship wasn’t on good terms I would call my guy friends to receive comfort because I always knew they would give it. Continue being friends with her and see where it goes from there but take your time. Observe with your eyes and take precautions with your heart.

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