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Dressing sexier doesn’t require that you wear spandex and spiky leather boots. You can look sexy while dressing casual too, without looking cheap. If you like wearing jeans and a t-shirt, make sure that both of these fit and there aren’t any holes or stains. Nothing is less sexy than a baggy sloppy oversized t-shirt with a cartoon character on the front. Jeans have to fit you and be suitable for your body type. Yes, you will have to try on a LOT of jeans, but when you find that style that looks good, the difference is incredible. Try some that are lower rise than you usually wear. Make sure that you’re not putting anything on display when you bend over though. If you want to emphasize your hips, get a wide leather belt with a distinctive and feminine buckle.

Well-fitted clothes show off your shape and are very sexy. By well-fitted I don’t mean tight, I mean something that you can move easily in but that curves where you do. One of my favorite summer tops is just plain dark green, with a high button V-neck and short sleeves, not too tight, perfectly respectable. But somehow, in the way it’s cut, it just says *FEMALE*! I’ve gotten so many compliments while wearing it… Rather than a regular t-shirt, try other types of tops. Try short sleeves or elbow length sleeves so you do show some skin, or a lower neckline than you usually wear. Put on a skimpy lacy camisole, than cover up most of it by layering with another top with sleeves, in a colour that looks good on you. Your boyfriend will know that he’s the only one that gets to see that lacy layer that the others only get glimpses of.

Take a day to go shopping with a girlfriend whose style you admire, and just try on clothes. Even if it doesn’t look particularly good on a hanger, try it on just for fun and you might be surprised. When you know you look sexy you will feel sexy,and that’s good for you as well as your boyfriend. Try watching a few episodes of “What Not to Wear” on TV – they will give you some good tips on how to do Sexy without doing Trashy.

If all else fails, buy a bunch of lacy underwear. Most men really appreciate the sight of a pair of flimsy knickers.

[Anonymous]

I dated my boyfriend for 6 months when he broke up with me because he said we were moving too fast. We broke up for 3 weeks and he said he wanted to try and work things out but take them slow so we did. A little over a week ago he asked me to be his g/f again but now he is being distant. He gets defensive when I try to talk about what’s wrong and he acts like he doesn’t want to hang out with me as much as he use to. I know he loves and cares for me but this really hurts. He’s having problems with work and I think that on top of our issue is just stressing him out big time. I don’t know what to do please help.

[Anonymous]

Dora,

I have to admit this sounds like a mystery. There is not really any way to know what is going on unless you are able to discuss it with him. If your relationship is serious enough to include sex, then this is something you should be able to talk about with him.

Good Luck

[Anonymous]

thought I should add a couple details that might be pertinent:

we’re both well adjusted mature not-shy introverts
we’re both relatively professionally successful
we met on a dating site

in other words, other than looking for a relationship we both seem to have our crap together.

[Anonymous]

I think “needing space” as a universal point of no return. Either way, the best action can be nothing other than giving space and see what happens. Although it sounds like maybe more solitude is what she was looking for. I know the feeling and felt terrible about trying to have that conversation in the past because no one can take it the right way.

[Anonymous]

I appreciate your advice. I am most likely going to go the friends with benefits route. It’s not like I don’t have other options. It’s crazy she hasn’t told her boyfriend anything about me. Soon as he left this morning I received multiple emails from her asking me why am I not answering my phone. Then she hit me up on a social website trying to talk on there. Of course I did not respond. So do you have any other suggestions or advice about this situation since I’m taking the fwb route?

[Anonymous]

Thanks, your right. I’m not the kinda girl that does a fake laugh, bats eyelashes and stares blatantly. I was actually thinking about asking him about the sharks;) But I’M just worried it’ll be awkward and the convo won’t go anywhere 😕

[Anonymous]

Sorry for the spelling errors, Also she doesn`t understand why I am hurt, angry and confused over this.

[Anonymous]

I have two last things that I want to get your opinion on. The first one is the continuation of the main topic and second is based on another issue.
1.Well I do recall last week she told me prior to us having our first sexual encounter her and her boyfriend were trying to work things out. Then she hit me with the bombshell that they got back together. As I stated before she wanted to spend time with me the whole weekend. I tried to make an attempt to have sex but she stopped me even though she really wanted to. She said she didn’t want to feel guilty. Her boyfriend is here now visiting and of course she hasn’t hit me up nor have I hit her up. I know once he leaves she will call me but I probably will not respond. So what do you think?

2.One thing I do believe I made a mistake was when I tried to contact her after her response in a text. It basically went like this: I told her I was coming by a few nights ago. She then hit me up a couple times wondering when I was coming.Then at the last minute I told her that I couldn’t make it. She had taken what I said the wrong way and seemed like she was upset and replied back saying bye. I figured she was trying to cut ties with me so I hit her back a several times to let her know she took what I said the wrong way. She didn’t respond because she fell asleep but the following day she replied back asking me why I sent the messages I sent. Even though the messages was explaining to her that she took things the wrong way and wishing her luck on something that was important to her. She initially didn’t want to talk but ended up calling me anyway. Do you think I was in the wrong? If so, do you suggests that I fall waaay back now? Thanks

[Anonymous]

[quote=”boogie”]I know how u feel I was in the same boat but didnt have your courage to say anything and now he is going out with somebody and we r not even close anymore so i kept my feelingd hidden for nothing. It’s important to take risks and if ur desire for her overides ur need for friendship with her then get ur confidence together and go for it it’ll be the catalyst for something either a begginning or an end..I hope a Beginning 😉 [quote=”Morethanafriend”]I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of
the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?[/quote][/quote]

I called her today, and I apologised for some of things I said. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date waith me. She said no. She said that sh still wants to be my friend but she cant be anymore than that.

Its over. As much as I want to be with her, I cant stay and watch her date other guys. I think I am just going to stop seeing her. Its gonna be tough though.

[Anonymous]

More than likely he’s seeing someone else. The attention that he was giving you is now given to her.

[Anonymous]

I know how u feel I was in the same boat but didnt have your courage to say anything and now he is going out with somebody and we r not even close anymore so i kept my feelingd hidden for nothing. It’s important to take risks and if ur desire for her overides ur need for friendship with her then get ur confidence together and go for it it’ll be the catalyst for something either a begginning or an end..I hope a Beginning 😉 [quote=”Morethanafriend”]I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?[/quote]

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is dragging you along and doesnt want to loose either of you.

[Anonymous]

I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?

[Anonymous]

thanks april! turns out i wasn’t as into him as i thought i was. plus i think my job kind of clashed with him politically, yet intimidated the hell out of him. good thing i didn’t bring him to an office party! 🙄

speaking of, why is that the case? that certain careers total scare men off? my job is far from glamourous, and definitely not financially rewarding (i work in criminal litigation at the appellate level), but i worked my ass off and made a lot of sacrifices in law school, socially, financially and relationship-wise, which you would expect him to understand considering he’s an attorney as well. sorry maybe that was just me venting. 🙂

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