Please help me understand women!

Women are different creatures then men, and they behave differently. There are a couple of different reasons why the woman you’re asking about texted you after what you thought was a blow off.

1. She could really have been involved in her divorce proceedings even after two years post divorce. Sometimes, and often, divorce proceedings continue on for years past the actual divorce date. So she could have been telling you the truth that she was really focused at the time, on extricating herself from a house she had with her ex-husband. It’s possible. And her giving you all the sordid details may just be her way of working through the divorce entrails. Lots of people who’ve gone through a divorce talk about it for years afterwards because that’s how long it takes for them to sort through it.

2. More likely, however, is that once you “disappeared” from her radar, you became more attractive to her. I know, I know, you’re scratching your head, but the reality is many people want what they think they can’t have, and don’t want what they think is too easy to get. When you were available, you weren’t as attractive to her. But when you decided she wasn’t interested in you and moved on, she may have suddenly realized you were a man who can’t be controlled, and that made you all the more attractive to her!

3. Possibly, she may have gotten lonely, and decided to stir the pot a little by seeing if you were still available. Sometimes people are driven by loneliness and a need to have someone more than the need to have the right someone. If she truly did extricate herself from her ex-husband, she may realize only since doing that that she’s lonely, and suddenly, you look more attractive to her. So she texted you to get back in contact.

The reason for the impersonal text is because she knows that she’s the one initiating this “reunion” of sorts, and she doesn’t want it to look like she’s throwing herself at you. The impersonal nature of the text is her testing the waters to see where you stand and if you’re still interested. She doesn’t want to lay all her cards on the table if you’re going to reject her.

The reason she texted instead of picked up the phone is because she’s scared that you’re going to reject her, and a text is less personal, so the sting of a possible rejection is less harsh on her. She knows on some level that she’s coming back to you hat in hand, and the text is her way of avoiding her about face.

I hope that helps you decide whether or not you want to connect with her now.

Hi Dude,

I’m kinda agree with April here to a degree, but understanding women is a time honoured mystery men have been trying to unravel forever!

When you were dating this woman she saw you as a pet (for want of a better word) someone she could have influence over and could possibly control. As soon as you decided that dating her was not for you this tips the balance of her supposed seduction powers and to boost her ego she tests you out.

First when you stop calling her ego is dented even though she never really wanted you, so to see if she could still attract you she starts to play the game. She waits to see if you’ll call you don’t so she texts you to see if you’ll bite and you do.

She dosen’t really want to talk with you she just needs to no that she still holds some attraction power over you and texting is a great way to communicate without having to commit emotionally.