Confronting a cheating partner

She’s a liar, a cheat and terrible role model for her son — and she doesn’t deserve you! 👿 You sound like a GREAT guy, even in what must be an incredibly painful situation. 😥

I’m sorry that this happened to you. The only good news is that you didn’t marry her and can get away.

I say confront her and no matter what she says or what excuse she gives — RUN! A cheat is a cheat is a cheat and they never change. Do NOT give her a second chance no matter what she says or excuse she gives. She has proven to be a liar and you cannot believe a word she says. 😯

I also do NOT think you should pay any of the legal fees. It’s her child and her legal battle — not yours. While you were acting like a great boyfriend (to say nothing of assuming the responsibility of being a step-dad) she was acting as if she didn’t even have a boyfriend (except when it came to using you and your money to get custody). 👿

Drop her. Drop the legal bills. And get away from her ASAP!

YOU DESERVE A LOT BETTER!!!!!! 😀 😀 😀

Hi, topic poster here. Thanks for all the advice but i will have to show her the evidence whether it seems dramatic or not as she will need a good reason for the split. What with trying to get her son back. I have so far paid no legal fee’s and nor do i plan to her new man can do that although i found out a few minutes ago that he is asking out practically every girl he see’s on a night out (i can’t say i didn’t laugh at the thought of her reaction when she finds that one out in the due course of time)

[quote=”Guest”]It’s funny as at the start of the relationship we were both hurt from the past (her more than me as her ex used to beat her black and blue) she had just got help out of that relationship with the help of yours truly. But i digress we promised each other right at the begining “NO SECRETS, NO LIES” and so i lived happily all this time safe in the knowledge that i could tell her anything good and bad and it would help us grow stronger. After being with her for so long i will have to show her the evidence as i cannot just up and leave without justification. I also need to do this so that she cannot lie to our friends and put me in a bad light. I now have her rent money all i’m waiting for is her period to show i’m in the clear. (i know i should always use protection, and if there is a pregnancy involved then i will love that child, if its mine, more than anything on this earth)[/quote]

wow seems to me she took well advantage of the things u done for her. got her back on her two feet and still going..the audacity.
in essence she’s actually giving u the drama..just takin u for granted until she gets caught. mite as well give the drama back and be out!
i like the facebook idea.

goodluck 🙂

[quote=”dale”]She’s been using you to fix her problems and all the while cheating on you and lying to you. Dump her ass. She’s a piece of garbage! 😡

I wonder if she really did come from an abusive relationship or if she lied about that too and made it up just to get you to feel sorry for her and to get you to help her solve her problems. Unless you way actual proof, i’ll bet she lied.

i say post both of their crap on facebook and let everyone see these two for what they really are! 😮 😮 😮[/quote]

agreed! emotional vampires are everywhere. dont let her feed off of you! makes me wonder..i cannot lie without feeling like absolute %$^&! does this girl have a conscience at [i]all[/i]?

There has been new developments as i got home tonight from work i noticed she was on facebook, and i saw the chat window open to him there was no messages just a blank screen then a second later he typed “i know”. So in general conversation i asked “what does he know?” she said “i dunno and once again i can’t check cos facebook keeps deleting it.” i wanted to scream out YOU LYING COW but i kept my cool. We are going out with a few friends tonight including him to celebrate a birthday, so as she was in the shower i checked his facebook and saw the entire conversation. (i will use S for her and H for him) S- i miss u x. H- me too x. S- when are we going to make time for each other. H- im rarely free these days. S- we need to make a day soon when both of us are not workingxxx. *delete* H- i know Then after we were both ready i went downstairs and she said that when she was talking to him they where talking about plans for tonight and how they are all going horribly wrong and that is probably what he was saying i know to. I have her red handed i’m reaching my boiling point but i must wait. I am sorry to say that am not the perfect man i’ve made myself out to be i was not the best boyfriend in the world i sometimes didn’t listen and other times was annoying as a fly buzzing in your ear. So i understand why she has done this to me but do not think that what i’ve done justifies her cheating. If i had cheated then i wouldn’t have been able to lie and we’d have split up long ago.

[quote=”Guest”]There has been new developments as i got home tonight from work i noticed she was on facebook, and i saw the chat window open to him there was no messages just a blank screen then a second later he typed “i know”. So in general conversation i asked “what does he know?” she said “i dunno and once again i can’t check cos facebook keeps deleting it.” i wanted to scream out YOU LYING COW but i kept my cool. We are going out with a few friends tonight including him to celebrate a birthday, so as she was in the shower i checked his facebook and saw the entire conversation. (i will use S for her and H for him) S- i miss u x. H- me too x. S- when are we going to make time for each other. H- im rarely free these days. S- we need to make a day soon when both of us are not workingxxx. *delete* H- i know Then after we were both ready i went downstairs and she said that when she was talking to him they where talking about plans for tonight and how they are all going horribly wrong and that is probably what he was saying i know to. I have her red handed i’m reaching my boiling point but i must wait. I am sorry to say that am not the perfect man i’ve made myself out to be i was not the best boyfriend in the world i sometimes didn’t listen and other times was annoying as a fly buzzing in your ear. So i understand why she has done this to me but do not think that what i’ve done justifies her cheating. If i had cheated then i wouldn’t have been able to lie and we’d have split up long ago.[/quote]

Don’t for a second think that this is YOUR fault! She has a choice, she is in complete control of her actions. She IS taking advantage of you, lying to your face, and cheating behind your back. She didn’t have to do any of this. If she respected you AT ALL she would have done the mature and right thing by ending things with you FIRST. But instead, she has done all this, which has hurt you. Don’t blame yourself for anything. No one is perfect, okay? No one, and no one deserves to be treated the way she has treated you. End of story.

once again thank you all for the advice 😀 , i know i will be out of this soon although it may be in a day or two as she has her son with her for today and tomorrow and i dont want to put him through anything as he is a fantastic little boy and is now the only thing i will miss about being with her 🙁 . I know i will move past this… what doesn’t kill you, can only make you stronger. i will let you guys and gals out there know how it goes 😉 .