What is my next step?

Hi April.

I have been involved casually and not so casually with this guy for almost 2 years. He has been involved with another woman as well. He has basically had his cake and been eating it too. This other woman is very possessive and also works with him. She knows about me or at least suspected and leaves things at his house for me to find. Recently, she drove by his house when I was there and threw a fit with him later. Well, I reached a breaking point 3 weeks ago (shortly after her drive by) and told him I wasn’t going to be around and I needed time to think. He waited 2 weeks and text me saying he missed me and he trusted me and didn’t want to lose me. I basically told him the same thing back. It wasn’t a long conversation because it was late at night. There was a little more to the conversation but that is the major highlights. I didn’t contact him over the past week and he finally contacted me again Thursday night. It was VERY late then and I really think he was trying to get his liquid courage up. He asked me to come over and I responded if that invitation had included dinner I might have considered it. He never text me back and I didn’t say anymore. This other woman hasn’t been giving him a moments peace since her drive by and I’m sure she is monopolizing his time over the weekend. He hates confrontation (who does except attorneys) and avoids them until he snaps. I’m not contacting him, he is doing all the contact, but I’m just curious if I’m doing the right thing. I’m not giving ultimatums, not insisting he get rid of the other woman (which will be necessary to have a successful relationship) and I pretty much told him no booty calls–It’s a date or nothing at all. I haven’t seen him since I told him I wasn’t going to be around, however, that is going to change next week. It is unavoidable. I intend to be nice and sweet but also make sure he knows I’m not backing down. I know you aren’t a mind reader, but from your experience and knowledge, do you feel that my method will get him to come back? I miss him but I need more and won’t settle for less anymore. It has been LONG enough. I would really appreciate your advice. I already have your book Think and Date Like a Man. Reading it for the 2nd time, just would like your advice on my specific issue.

Thank you.

StillLearning