I’ve been dating a man for about 3 months now and things have been going quite well. He’s a smoker and drinks fairly often, especially in social situations. He’s a social person and has a large group of friends, most of which he’s known for years. On the other hand, I do not smoke and do not drink much. I have been a loner and am happy with that, but don’t mind engaging socially with his friends.
However, all of his friends are smokers and somewhat heavy drinkers. I don’t feel comfortable when going out with his friends (which he does often) and they are all puffing several cigarettes and I have to inhale the smoke. I don’t really mind the drinking because I can always pass and just have water or whatnot. The smoking is the main problem. The second is I feel a bit left out of conversation because they’ve all known each other for so long. They are polite to fill me in on some things though, but I end up feeling like a third wheel.
I can see it being a problem later down the road if I were to constantly blow off hanging out with him and his friends. Would I be too picky to leave for these reasons or should I find a way to compromise and risk interrupting ritual between him and his friends?
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