April Masini › Relationship Advice Forum › Relationship Advice Forum › Is There Any Hope For Me? :(
- This topic has 3 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 14 years, 2 months ago by
April Masini.
-
AuthorPosts
-
June 19, 2011 at 12:14 am #3626
relationshipa1
KeymasterI was with a great guy, we were happy together,had fun and seemed we had the same feelings for each other. Sometimes though, I would doubt his feelings. I have been hurt before,as we all have I know, and just need some reassurance from him. He did..told me he was happy with me etc. One day he was acting a little “off”,and again I got scared. Next day he told me he wasn’t happy and broke up with me.
I completely understand how frustrating it is when someone questions your feelings etc. I apologized as much as I could for acting that way.He gave me no reason to doubt him. I said that I DO trust him..because I really do.I’m not a bad person,I’m very loving and caring and would never hurt him on purpose.
I know it was unfair to him for doubting him,he never gave me a reason to do so. I tried explaining all this to him but he doesn’t want to give me the chance to fix it..to show him that I am a loving girl who would do anything to make him happy. I tried to reassure him that I would never make him feel bad again,and that every day he would be greeted with all the love and happiness he deserves.
He really is a wonderful guy, never treated me wrong. My stupid fears and insecurities took over and now I’ve lost him.
Right after it happened, I had left him some offline messages in case he saw when he got home. I was in a panic,but i said nothing bad, Tried to tell him again i was sorry that he didnt deserve for me to doubt him,and that if he could give it another chance,I would show him that I do trust him etc.
I dont know,i might have burned my bridge doing that,but I was in a panic
🙁 Is there any hope of getting back him back? Should I try talking to him again, give him space? I’m afraid if I wait too long it will be too late.
Please help
June 19, 2011 at 5:23 pm #16795Anonymous
ParticipantCan anyone help me please 🙁 There was never any mention of no contact from him or me, so I don’t know if I should try talking to him or not. He had walked past me a few hours afterward, and I wanted so badly to talk to him but didn’t know if I should. One friend, a male friend, told me I should wait a day or so before trying to talk to him because he feels hurt and angry right now. Yet a female friend told me that if I see him to say hi or something.
I know I need to work on my trust issues,and I am. I know in my heart, without a doubt, this relationship can be salvaged, if he only gave me the chance to explain and he’ll see how much I do trust him and care about him..things between us would be so much better. We were so great together and I know it can be that way again. At the time he was breaking up with me, seemed no matter what I said he had made up his mind not willing to work through it, so does that mean there’s no way of trying to fix it?
I just don’t know what to do. I’m so confused because people tell me different things. I just know that if he gave us another chance things would be as they were in the beginning – happy, loving and carefree, but how and when do I try to reach out and attempt a reconciliation?…and more importantly, WHAT do I say, HOW do I say it ? Or do I wait for him to come to me since he was the one who wanted to end it? If wait too long, it may be too late, I don’t know.
Help? ><
June 20, 2011 at 4:48 pm #16247Participanthi. first of all you are coming across as too desperate. i know in desperation some people do desperate things but i think you should cool it for awhile. you have made it clear to him how you feel and what you are willing to do to get him back. the ball is in his court.
personally i think the damage is done. even if he did want to get back together and try and make the relationship work, too many insecurities have surfaced and there is no taking back words or actions that have happened.
i think you should move on and continue to work on yourself and your insecurities. once you start loving yourself for who you are many people will notice you and want to be around you. confidence is very attracting. when you gain that confidence in yourself everything else will fall into place.
there are many men/guys/boys in this world and in time and with working on yourself and your self esteem you will meet someone that will treat you well and who you will feel confident with.
good luck to you.June 20, 2011 at 7:35 pm #16993April Masini
KeymasterIn order to be in a healthy and successful relationship, you first have to be healthy yourself. Your anxiety and insecurities are going to hinder ANY relationship you find yourself in, so before you even THINK about getting into any relationship with another man, you need to focus on your own issues. Doubt, fear and insecurity are the opposite of sexy and attractive, so face them and get over them. There IS hope for you 🙂 but you have to do the work first. So work on yourself, and only THEN should you consider dating anyone.I hope that helps, and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link:
[url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001113133958[/url] 😀 -
AuthorPosts
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.