Let’s talk about his interest in other women, first. It’s very normal for guys to notice beautiful women, whether they’re movie stars or people on the street. Men are visual, and the fact that he’s making these comments out loud probably has a lot more to do with his comfort level with you than his interest in pursuing these women. Your reaction is important — so don’t make a mistake by having “a talk” with him about his behavior. Guys hate having “a talk” or “the talk” and if you do this you’re right, you’ll come off as insecure, but worse, you’ll come off as didactic, controlling and lacking in a spirit of lightheartedness. That said, there are things you CAN do! For instance, you can agree with him. I know this sounds completely opposite what you are feeling, but if you tell him, “She is attractive!” you’re disarming him from having a secret glance, and you’re letting him know that you’re not blind, you understand he thinks people are attractive besides you, and that you’re secure enough to join him in that admiration. In addition, you can notice what he likes and doesn’t like and use the information to your advantage! 😎 For instance, if he finds a particular style of clothing on a woman attractive, you can adopt it yourself to further get his attention back onto you! You can also ask him — “Would you like it if I wore a skirt like that?” — and get him involved in dialing up your relationship with him by using the information you’re both aware he likes. In other words, get away from any control issues you may have and move towards learning who he is, what he likes, and incorporating it into your relationship.
As for his cell phone at dinner — that’s just plain bad manners. My advice here is that you say something that is less condescending and more complimentary, for instance: I’d love to have all your attention — I’m getting jealous of that cell phone!! In other words, be playful and make a quasi joke out of what’s bothering you so he doesn’t feel like you’re shaking a finger at him like a school teacher, but are instead telling him what you want while complimenting him at the same time. 😎
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