[Nabiha]

When someone hides their personal life, it’s often because there’s already a “permanent resident” there. If you can’t find her weekends in 3 weeks, assume she’s ‘vibe’ing someone else on the weekends
“And your saying ‘I won’t ruin their house’ is a bit too filmy. If she’s married and going on dates with you, then you’re not the one ruining the relationship; she’s the one ruining it. You’re just being a tool.
Instead of trapping yourself by rushing into an I love you, play it like a detective for a bit. If she were actually serious about you, she’d be letting you into her life, not hiding it.
I think if you’re suspecting a boyfriend or husband in 3 weeks, there’s a 90% chance your gut feeling is right. Don’t waste time, get a background check done first, then give up!

[Nabiha]

You guys have been talking for a month, which means you have built up an image of Mark in your mind. The biggest problem on a first date is that a guy doesn’t come across as the same on the phone. Maybe he’s a big Alpha on text, but stutters in person, or maybe he talks so much that you don’t get a chance. So, keep your “expectations” low so Sunday doesn’t get heartbroken.
I think the best way to make him feel special is not to say yes to everything he says. But to challenge him a little. If he says something you don’t like, jokingly disagree. Men like girls who have their own stand “special,” not those who just say “Aww, so cute.”
Hi AskApril, what’s your opinion about,
Waiting for your expert advice.

[Nabiha]

What kind of meeting happens on a day off? Unless the guy is Elon Musk, nobody has ‘business meetings’ so urgent that they’re just sitting in a cafe twiddling their thumbs. The truth is, he’s out there doing some “New Recruitment.” He wasn’t waiting for a client at that cafe; he was waiting for a ‘new option’ that’s probably still on the pending list.
Love has its place, but this guy is licking your self-worth like a termite. He is making you feel “sorry for yourself” so that you will never dare to leave him.
Stop asking him for “specific answers”, he will never tell the truth. There is no need to check his phone; his actions are all CCTV footage.

[Nabiha]

When someone talks about their ex repeatedly, there are only two reasons: either she hates him, or she misses him. It’s been four months, and this should be the honeymoon phase where she shouldn’t have eyes for anyone but you. If her ex is still sitting in the ‘front seat’ of her mind, then you are just the driver; someone else is still the owner!
You need to be honest for once and say, Look, I have no interest in your ex, and hiding your phone is off-putting to me. If you’re still there mentally, please don’t waste my time.
You need to be a little “detached.” When a girl feels like you’re getting out of hand, that’s when her secret texting will stop, or the truth will be revealed forever.

[Nabiha]

If someone disappears for two days without telling you in a month of dating, they are not busy, they are checking out options.At 22 years old, nobody is so occupied that they can’t send a single text. The truth is that when he is with you, he is “sweet” because he needs your attention, but disappearing is a sign that his interest is only based on his convenience.
These guys play the “hot and cold” game to keep girls “intimate” so that the girl thinks about them all the time. It is a kind of manipulative technique so that you always try to “please” him and show your importance.
I think you should take a lesson from the “AskApril” books and give this guy an ultimatum of clarity. If he’s disappearing now, he’ll be a complete ghost in six months. It’s better to next him now than to waste time!

[Nabiha]

I think when a husband starts getting more comfort from seeing his colleague’s notifications than from his wife, then understand that a virus has entered the system. It doesn’t have to be physical; just a mental wander is enough.
The new “spark” that a husband is getting at this age is actually a cheap way to escape the office boredom. He is becoming cool with his colleague because there are no responsibilities or home problems, and this is the biggest red flag. If he is ignoring you and is glued to his phone, then he is not being friendly but is trying to fill the emptiness of his married life from outside.

Is this chatting? Maybe not “full blown” yet, but definitely “micro chatting”. If a husband is feeling flirtatious outside after 4 years of marriage, then it means that he is not respecting the boundaries of the marriage. you are being “uncomfortable” is enough proof that something is wrong.

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