This is a tough time all over the country for family finances. Your situation is not unusual. The stress of your boyfriend’s job loss is devastating to him. That said, it’s not fair for him not to talk to you about plans the two of you need to make since you are supporting him now.
My suggestion to you is to try and make this work since you love him, it’s not his fault he lost his job and I trust that he is trying to look for work, and you have a baby coming. If he doesn’t listen to you when you talk to him, try writing him a letter. Make it short and sweet, and have it profess your love and your wish that you two get through this tough time by having a non-emotional business meeting about ways you can live on what income you do have. Set a time and date, and ask him if he could please meet you because it’s important to you, and not having a plan together is making you fearful. Having a plan and getting through this time is what will make you feel more secure.
Choose a neutral location for the meeting and not a loaded place like the bedroom. Ahead of time, you come up with some brainstorming ideas like, moving to a cheaper home, cutting down from two cars to one, his finding part time work while he’s looking for an ideal full time job, etc. I’m sure you can come up with other ways to cut your expenses besides those.
Money arguments usually become loaded because fear of not having enough creates so much stress. But remember that you’re not alone, and everyone is cutting back. It’s your turn to join the party! This doesn’t have to be an emasculation of him for not being employed or a blame game. Just a practical way to plan for your temporary future with one income, and some alternatives in case things change.
I hope that helps make you feel happy again.
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