[Anonymous]

So, he just msned me to say he wanted talk/call me tomorrow. Asked me for my phone number and said we’ll talk soon. I gave to him but to tell you the truth i’m still pissed at him for ignoring me for so long without even saying he needed his space. Why should I make it easy for him to talk whenever he wants to? He never wanted to talk when I did. Would it be wrong to email him back and just tell him not to bother. I think I’m just not going to answer the phone if not. I know it’s childish but it goes both ways and why should he always get to choose, not me?

[Anonymous]

Wow!! What a quick response – Thank-you.

I work with this guy but will try and cut it off as much as possible as I can – need to balance this with maintaining some level of professionalism as well.

Why is it that the guys who like me are never the ones I like back??

UKgal

[Anonymous]

So, you’re right i’m kind of avoiding having a full fledged relationship. I’m trying to avoid all the sexual part of it because I very recently got out of a four year relationship and just don’t want to have sex or even kiss anyone at the moment. I’m 28, I really loved the guy I with and he me, I’ll always love him but we were both we were just too different to make it work out in the long run. I have told all this to my cuddle bud and he knows this but at the same time he has expressed wanting something more. I told him that I can’t change how I am at the moment. Last time I broke up with someone I ended up rebounding, freaking out eventually and then going back to my ex. I’m scared to have that happen for now that I’d rather just have a friend to talk to and cuddle with. I just need my space with it comes to sex and kissing and all that at the moment. I guess in a way he’s just filling the void that I feel. What I miss most about being in my past relationshiop is waking up next to someone and just cuddling and talking. We were so close and I just want that part back. I should probably let this guy go cause I know it’s not fair to him either but I have been upfront with him and he knows. I guess i’m just a little selfish at the moment.

[Anonymous]

I understand your points. I was working in a dying industry and facing the possibility of being laid off when we were engaged. We were already engaged when we both made the decision that the best thing for us was for me to find more stability in my career. That’s when school came into play. We had a very long discussion about it, and it wasn’t a snap decision. We both agreed that we could make it through no matter what. Not only that, but I’m currently only about a month from graduating and being able to move back down with her. So the light is definitely showing at the end of that tunnel. Since I’ve been up here, we’ve been talking on the phone, texting, chatting on Facebook and even on Web cam. When she e-mailed me about needing space, she said that she’d like to focus on our issues when we both finish our semesters at the beginning of May. I’m fine with giving her the space and time she needs, and I’m using the time to really focus on bettering myself so that something like this doesn’t happen again.

I really think she’s just upset about some of the things I said and, with all the school stress she’s under, she just panicked and this is the result. I just hope I’m able to get a second chance and save our marriage.

[Anonymous]

So, stupid question if I shouldn’t be sleeping next to him does that mean I still can’t just hang out with him and watch the odd movie and get a cuddle out of it. Because I know I won’t have sex with him. It’s just not something I want. I cuddle with him now because i don’t want a relationship with anyone. I’m not in a point in my life where I’m looking for Mr. right or anyone for that matter. I’ve made it very clear to him that him and I aren’t happening. He still dates other people and I’m perfectly fine with that. I know once he finds someone else I’ll miss hanging out with him and but I’ll be okay with it.

[Anonymous]

The girlfriend is 21, the sweet girl is 18, and i’m 24… Its not that she’s commited to her parents or anything like that. it’s that i have had a bad past which her mother knows about. But i can assure you that i’ve changed and she wants her mom and i to meet to make it better. But she says that i have to figure out what i’m going to do with my girlfriend

[Anonymous]

let me add last night I broke up with him. I’m so sad. he cried but didn’t stop me. I already want to call him cuz i miss him, its harder to feel like you’re doing the right thing when no one is angry.

[Anonymous]

you’ve only had two dates, just see what happens. You’re not going to lose anything since really he isn’t anything to you. Just keep your cool, try not to be clingy and it’s really hard i know but you can’t assume the worse he might being telling the truth. You cant make things happen. try to have fun with it 🙂

[Anonymous]

Thank you alot. I think i would really take your advice. But honestly, i really like the guy. I believe what he says though because he has shown me that he doesn’t see her and that she knows about me. I just have a feeling things would work out. But i’ll take your advice even though and try what you say and see how i feel after.

[Anonymous]

Thanks April. That’s what I thought, I should just leave him alone. The only reason I thought about emailing him again was because all of my friends keep saying I should. When I last spoke to him he also did say to call him anytime and I said “I won’t”. I just hope I didn’t hurt him too much by saying that. But, as you said he knows how to contact me and I honestly hope one day he does….not to get back together but just because I’ll always care about him a lot.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. Its just really hard, I know it wouldn’t work and I know if it did work, then it would end shortly after. This first girl though, was amazing too. I don’t think I will find someone like her, I don’t know why I don’t feel the same way now. Maybe when I go home and see her, things will change. I want to try to stop having the feelings I have for this new girl but I don’t know how. Should I stop talking to her for a little while? I just can’t get her out of my head now, I feel sick because I miss her so much. What can I do to stop this feeling?

[Anonymous]

Thank you. Its just really hard, I know it wouldn’t work and I know if it did work, then it would end shortly after. This first girl though, was amazing too. I don’t think I will find someone like her, I don’t know why I don’t feel the same way now. Maybe when I go home and see her, things will change. I want to try to stop having the feelings I have for this new girl but I don’t know how. Should I stop talking to her for a little while? I just can’t get her out of my head now, I feel sick because I miss her so much. What can I do to stop this feeling?

[Anonymous]

Thank-you April!
I think that you are right, maybe its high time for me to forget her, in every possible way!
Thanks for the advice!

[Anonymous]

Please April Masini, give me some advice or tips in order to help me!
I am in a serious trouble.

[Anonymous]

Hey, i think that she is very confused about what you’ve done with your first boyfriend! I am a boy and i have experienced the same situation! I also said its ok but little by little when it comes to my mind, i started to hate the girl. I was in a very angry mood and even i didn’t wnat to have contact with her! But the only thing i can say to you is that if he really loves you, one day he will return back to you.keep some patience dear!!

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