[Richard]

Even from the beginning, before you were officially together, it seems like there were already a lot of issues. I also understand that it’s difficult to judge Josh right away. What I’m wondering is, if these people are truly his friends, why are they speaking badly about him to you? And what would they gain from doing that? Maybe you should first find out who these people really are and whether they can be trusted

[Richard]

It’s understandable to be scared because if she actually goes through with it, you might end up blaming yourself. But if you’re only staying with her out of pity or because she’s threatening to take her own life, what about your own happiness? You can’t keep sacrificing yourself for her indefinitely just because that’s what she wants.

[Richard]

You’re naturally going to overthink if you don’t talk to your girlfriend. As they say, everything can be resolved through honest and healthy communication. You’re not accusing her of anything—you just want clarification and confirmation about the things that have been bothering you.

[Richard]

I think it’s already fine when it comes to your ex since the two of you are no longer together. You should probably talk to your friend instead and ask when it started—whether it happened while you and your ex were still together or only after your breakup. Your friend is the one you should confront, because there’s nothing left for you to pursue with your ex anymore since your relationship has already ended.

[Richard]

If you truly love him, then yes, forgive him because there’s really no clear accusation against him. He was also honest with you, so for me, I don’t think he wanted what happened. Maybe it’s best for both of you to leave it behind and simply take it as a lesson so that something like this won’t happen again.

[Richard]

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for you to break up with her. She sounds extremely materialistic and demanding. I honestly didn’t think people like that actually existed—I thought they only existed in movies.

[Richard]

You’re the one causing yourself unnecessary stress. You can simply block him so he won’t be able to message you anymore. There’s no need to tell his girlfriend about it. That’s no longer your concern.

[Richard]

You don’t need to feel guilty just to prove that you’re kind or that you’re not a bad person. First of all, you were honest with him from the beginning and told him that you didn’t like him. Whether he chose to continue pursuing you after that was ultimately his decision.

[Richard]

Just because she said she would take her own life doesn’t mean you have to stay with her. You should still do what you believe is best for yourself. What she chooses to do is ultimately not something you can control, whether she follows through with what she says or not.

As for whether she has been cheating on you for a long time, I don’t think that matters anymore. The pain would be the same either way.

[Member]

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