distance between us…

I do understand what you are saying in that I don’t value myself and expect him to. This comes down to me having some self esteem issues. That is more of a personal problem but it does effect my relationship. It does seem like I am chasing him but honestly I’m very afraid of leaving and having him not chase me. You say to hit the highway back to my own life but I think my life would be worse without him in it. All of what I said in my first posting was true but maybe I was focasing on the negative because I was upset with him at the time for not spending time with me. In some ways this isn’t all his fault, jobs are scarce up here right now and he makes a good living. He told me today he is getting close to being able to buy a house for us. His job is one of the obsticles becuase though they allow phone calls, he works long hours, etc. I mean he hasn’t necessarily sacrificed his lifestyle the way I have but he does do things for me and I know he cares about me. He recently told me that he wants to take time off work and he wants to take me somewhere special for my birthday. Most of all he listens to me and has always been really supportive of the goals I have in my own life (e.g. my schooling and employment, etc). Since we have been long distance for so long we have very seperate lives and I think I am readly for us to be closer and circumstances are preventing it (his employment mainly). I’m just not sure sometimes what he wants. He is a really good man though sometimes he does little things that make me paranoid that he is no longer interested. I try to be patient because he told me none of his other relationships were remotely serious. I’m not sure whether he realizes that he sometimes neglects me or simply that he can’t do much about his current circumstances with work.
I would be interested in reading your book Think & Date Like A Man, because it might help me understand how men think so I don’t get the wrong impression or become confused with what he wants.