Dating is a numbers game. You have to date often to find the one man who is your Mr. Right. This is a lot like sports. Most ball players known for their super hitting ability strike out a lot! But the important thing is that they get up to bat, take their swings, and get a shot at the home run hit. If you don’t get up to bat — a lot — you’re not going to have that shot at the home run hit.
When someone, like this man in his 30s, behaves very clearly with his actions, in a way that shows he isn’t interested in dating you or pursuing you further, he’s giving you the strike out sign. You can ignore it, waste your time, chase him, even get him to sleep with you, and then wonder why he’s dating other women, three years into the relationship where you have to chase him, you only see him when he has time, and you’re wondering why he doesn’t show you a commitment. Don’t ignore the signs along the way. If he says he likes you as a friend, that’s a strike out! Go back to the bench. You’ll get a chance at bat again with someone else.
What you did was try and create a fantasy relationship. You may think in your mind he likes you more than he does, but his actions are very clear. If he says it’s up to you to call him, invite him out, and then “we’ll see”….well, if you can’t tell that that’s a rejection you need to read my book: Think & Date Like A Man. You can save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartbreak by clicking on the Dating Advice Books link at the top of this page, scrolling down to the Think & Date Like A Man book, and purchasing it for $14.95. It’s a bargain at that price because it’s going to help you get on the right road to dating the right men who want the right things for you.
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