I started living with my boyfriend 10 weeks ago. He is kind of a slob in the house and also smokes a lot of marijuana. I knew from the beginning that he smoked but I didn’t know the extent of his daily use until we moved in together. At first he would smoke in the morning and first thing when he came home at the end of the day and throughout the evening – maybe 6-8 times per day in total. I don’t really have a problem with occasional weekly marijuana use but I am tired of always interacting with a high person. He is SO BORING when he’s high and he doesn’t want to do much except sit on the couch, watch TV and eat food. He’s also gained a lot of weight in the past year. He cut back to maybe 60-75% of his initial habit once I brought it up to him but he still smokes weed daily in the evenings. It makes him smell terrible. He coughs and hacks and makes all kinds of noises and I know it’s bad for his lungs. It’s flat out annoying to me and it’s no fun being around someone who’s high when you’re not. Also, it’s still illegal for recreational use in our state so that raises concerns about his career. He is a physician still in medical training and would not be able to practice in his chosen field if he were to be dismissed from his program for drug use.
Is there anything I can do about this? I’ve talked to him about how I feel – what my concerns are, how much he’s hurting my feelings with the general slobbery and constant weed smoking, etc. but that has been mostly ineffective. I don’t know what else to do.
Thank you so much in advance.
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