[Nicole]

Just talk to each other if you still want your relationship to last. If the answer is yes, then you should both agree to make time for each other—start having quality time again and go on dates like you’re courting her all over again so the excitement and “kilig” can come back.

[Nicole]

An unhealthy relationship is when you can no longer agree on things and there’s constant conflict. I think he may just be immature if he tends to joke in that way. If you want your relationship to improve, try opening up to him about the things you feel are wrong in his behavior so he can realize it and adjust.

But if he is not open to that kind of conversation, then that becomes a problem because it seems like he is not willing to accept any fault in the relationship. A healthy relationship should always be give and take.

[Nicole]

Based on his behavior, you can usually notice it if a person never admits fault, always wants to be in control, and doesn’t accept when they are wrong. It often feels like they always think they are right.

To recover, focus on yourself. Find things that will keep you busy so you can heal faster. You can also try dating other people again—it might help you move on. Joining online dating or spending time with friends can also help. Just don’t allow yourself to be alone too much.

[Nicole]

Maybe he realized your worth after you were gone—people often regret things later. But if you’ve already moved on, then what’s the point of thinking about it now? You seem okay already, so just focus on other things instead.

Also, it’s still not sure if he actually wants to get back with you because he hasn’t confirmed anything yet. And don’t ask him directly, because you might misunderstand the situation and end up feeling embarrassed if you’re wrong.

[Nicole]

After being together for a long time, it’s normal that sometimes you start to feel bored with each other. My advice is to open up to him about what you’re noticing, because he might not even be aware of it due to how busy he is with work.

You both need to have quality time together again so you can reconnect. Also, don’t forget to take care of yourself—make yourself look good and feel confident. Try to dress up and take care of your appearance so the spark between you two can come back, just like when your relationship first started.

[Nicole]

Honestly, that’s normal in a long relationship because after being together for a long time, it’s natural that there are moments when you both start to feel bored or “used to” each other.

I think what you need is to talk to each other and make time for quality moments together so you can bring back the excitement. Also, take care of yourself—make yourself look good, feel confident, maybe try going to the gym. That way, you can attract your husband’s attention again and bring back the spark in your relationship.

[Nicole]

At the moment, I don’t think there is any chance because she has already rejected you. But you can still try to stay consistent and keep going. Maybe in the long run, she might see something in you that could change her mind.

[Nicole]

It’s hard to say if he likes you just because he looked at you. My advice is to try giving him subtle signs that you’re interested in him. Then observe how he reacts. If he starts making a move or responding in a clear way, that’s when you can tell he might be interested in you too. But for now, it really is difficult to know for sure.

[Nicole]

Maybe he thought that you weren’t really serious about him, which is why he started losing interest. If you really like him and you’re dating, then show it and make him feel it. He may have also genuinely gotten upset by your question about whether you both should stop talking to other people, especially since he apparently wasn’t talking to anyone else. Then when he showed you his messages, you didn’t show yours in return. Maybe that turned him off or made him feel like things weren’t equal between you two.

[Nicole]

I don’t think it’s necessarily like that. He considered you enough to tell you honestly about the situation. But if you’re not comfortable with that kind of setup where he’s far away, you can still reply to him so he won’t feel ignored or look foolish. Then tell him honestly what you really want to say. If you don’t want to waste time investing in the relationship, it’s better to tell him early so neither of you keeps investing time and emotions into each other.

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