I think you didn’t really ask me what you want to know. The question you really want to ask is how do you take this relationship to the next level where there are not just casual hugs at the end of the date, but intimate kisses. Right? And….you don’t want to be rejected, so you want to make sure she’s into the idea of stepping it up before you make a move. Am I right again?
Here’s the deal: You’re becoming a man and one of the things you have to learn and accept is that sometimes you have to take a risk and go for it. If she rejects you, it’s going to feel awkward, awful and maybe terrible, but you’ve got the goods to face rejection and take it like a man. You’ve also got the goods to go for it, and give it your all and see what’s there.
Next time you take her out, make your move. I know that this can be scary — especially for the first time — but there is no short cut. Believe me — asking her how she feels, talking about your feelings, making sure it’s safe before you tiptoe into a kiss — it’s not very manly. And frankly, she’s apt to feel uncomfortable being put in the position to tell you her feelings rather than having you take the lead. So here’s the good news: you get to be the man, and here’s how you do it.
Try some hand holding. If you take her hand, and she pulls away, chances are she’s not going to be up for the kiss. If you take her hand, and she lets you take it — or she even smiles at you or squeezes your hand back, then you know you’re good to go in for a kiss at the end of the evening. Some other steps that can lead up to a kiss are other forms of touching her affectionately and in a boyfriend-like way. For instance, put your hand on her back when you’re guiding her through a door or a crowd. Let your hand linger on her back. This will give her a sign that you’re interested in more than just casual hugs at the end of a date. If there’s a moment in a conversation where you can touch her hair, or move her hair from her face, but let your hand linger a second beyond what would be enough to actually move her hair, she’ll understand your feelings for her are more than friends. Gently and affectionately touching her in ways that are not sexual, but are ‘more than just friends’ will give you both a reading on how you’re feeling about each other.
Let me know if that helps, and how the date goes.
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