Dear April,
I have been dating a great guy for a little over two years, now. He honestly cares for me, tells me he loves me and how beautiful he thinks I am at any chance he gets. I know his family very well and they like me very much, too. We spend all the weekends and holidays together – we would do it more often, but I’m very busy working during the week and we live about an hour apart. I couldn’t be happier in this relationship, yet I feel that I did everything wrong in the dating stages (maybe even now). For one, I slept with him almost immediately. We both agree that it was too quick, but he says he doesn’t regret it. I also moved in with him within a month of starting to date him in order to help him out with rent (he has been more or less broke ever since we started dating, but has never asked me for money). We lived together for about eight months. Then we both realized that we needed more space and I gradually moved out and further away. Ever since then, our relationship has actually improved (although it was already a good one to begin with). Another thing I did that was probably not very intelligent was to return his phone calls immediately whenever he would call me (I still do) and I very often called him. Now, we’re at a point at which he actually asks me to call him every day (to make sure that I got home alright or to say goodnight after I go to bed, or if there is a problem and I need someone to talk to) although he admits that he dislikes talking on the phone. Overall, we talk about everything, especially when we’re in person, sex is very frequent and fun, and from the honest and caring love letter he wrote me two years ago to the great weekends we have, things only seem to get better. Yet, I know that he is not ready for marriage and won’t be for another 5 years or so – and I don’t mean to push him since it is not the most important thing to me, either, but I begin to wonder: Did I do something wrong that will affect the relationship in the future, or is this meant to be?
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