Hi April– Have a situation that I’m not sure how to handle.
My husband and I’ve been married since just after high school, and had been together off and on during school. During that time (during school) he had snuck around with this girl, and got caught. He repeated that a few times in the early years of our marriage, and I actually filed for divorce and moved out. He begged me not to go through with it, that he’d straighten out, he loved me, he’s always loved me, yada yada. (Just a case of thinking with the little one, I believe, or the fact we were so young and he “needed to sow his wild oats.”)
In any case, he did straighten out, and has been a great husband. Our kids are now grown, and he’s really good to me, and we’re both still reasonably young and good-looking people.
But here’s my problem– this chick he snuck around with added him as a friend on Facebook, and actually invited him- just him- even though she knows he’s married (says so on his profile, and we also have mutual friends that I know she’s asked about him recently, and she also knows me from school, too.) Totally inappropriate behavior on her part, and certainly not his fault. For his part, he’s awfully defensive about it- which makes me nervous. I should also point out that I’ve had some health problems the last six months and have probably gained 20 pounds, so I feel like I’m being kicked while I’m down. (And you know how women feel when they gain just a few pounds- I feel like the blimp at this point.) Meanwhile, chicky’s some sort of bodybuilder.
But, there is another function next month we are going to that I feel she’ll also be at. What do I say to this person? Or do I say nothing at all? Am I totally blowing this out of proportion? Kind of ridiculous at our age, I know. But I feel the need to have a game plan before I see her, so I won’t explode if he so much as says hello to her. I also feel like I need to make her aware that I know what she’s up to….
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